1000 Days Sober Podcast

Living With a Drinker? You’re Not Going Crazy—You’re Not Safe

You’re not imagining it.

The tension. The fear. The gnawing sense that something’s off.

 

Living with someone who drinks can make you question your sanity.

You want to be supportive, patient, strong—but deep down, you don’t feel safe.

 

In this episode, Lee Davy rips the lid off the unspoken reality of living with a drinker.

You’ll learn how the Liquid Lie keeps partners trapped in cycles of blame, confusion, and fear—and how to shift the dynamic without losing yourSELF.

 

This one is for the STRIVERS quietly suffering, thinking they’re the problem.

You’re not.

You’re just not safe.

 

Listen to learn:

— Why your boundaries matter more than their promises

— The difference between loving communication and control

— What to do when they won’t stop drinking—but you won’t stop loving yourself

 

It’s time to stop shrinking and start choosing you.

 

Much love, and STRIVE on!

 

Lee

 

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Trying to Be AFAF but Your Relationship Is a Mess? Start Here

You want to be alcohol-free-as-fuck.

You want it to feel light. Joyful. Liberating.

But your relationship feels like a war zone.

You flinch when they speak.

You numb out when they touch you.

And when things get tense, your PARTS whisper, “I deserve a drink.”

 

Sound familiar?

 

After 15 years of helping people live SELF-led lives, I’ve learned this truth:

Your relationship with alcohol is often a mirror of your relationship with relationship itself.

 

In this episode, I unpack the three relationship models most STRIVERS get trapped in—and how each one quietly fuels alcohol use.

 

We’ll cover:

– Why most of us are stuck in legacy burdens from our parents

– How the “good guy” 50/50 model kills intimacy

– What the 80/80 model looks like in real life—and why it starts with YOU

– The real reason alcohol starts to look like a solution

– What to do if your partner refuses to do their work

 

If you’re trying to be AFAF while your relationship’s a mess, this one’s for you.

 

Subscribe. Rate. Share it with someone brave enough to look at love through a new lens.

 

 

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What to Do When You Feel Resentful That Others Can Drink “Normally”

You’re at a wedding…

They’re laughing over wine.

You’re swirling sparkling water—and silently spiralling.

 

That voice inside you says:

“Why do they get to drink—and I don’t?”

 

In this episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, Lee Davy breaks down what’s really going on when we feel resentful that others can drink “normally.” Spoiler: it’s not about them. It’s about the PART of you that still believes you’re missing out.

 

You’ll learn how to meet resentment with compassion, how to reconnect to your SELF, and how to stop using someone else’s illusion to betray your truth.

 

In this episode:

– Why resentment is a red flag from PARTS, not a signal from truth

– The five-step path to transform resentment into SELF-leadership

– How to release the myth of “normal drinking” once and for all

– Practical ways to meet unmet needs without turning to alcohol

 

You’re not the one being punished.

You’re the one breaking free.

 

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She Gets Softer When She Drinks—And That’s the Problem

What if your peace depends on someone else’s buzz?

 

In this episode, I’m speaking to anyone who’s alcohol-free-as-fuck but still living with a drinker. And here’s the twist—sometimes, when they drink, they soften. They touch more. Laugh more. Love more. And part of you likes it.

 

That’s not weakness. That’s conditioning.

And it’s costing you your SELF.

 

If you find yourself hoping for their next glass—not because you want to drink, but because you want them to become softer, safer, sweeter—then this episode is for you.

 

You’ll learn how to shift from the outside-in life to the inside-out life—where connection doesn’t depend on sedation, and where intimacy isn’t performance, but presence.

 

Hit play, STRIVER. And take your power back.

 

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Drunk Sex and the Death of Integrity: What Real Men Do

Here’s a hard truth no one’s talking about:

 

75% of sexual assaults involve alcohol.

Most perpetrators are men.

And most of them were drinking.

 

That’s not a coincidence.

That’s not a cultural quirk.

That’s a crisis.

 

In this episode, I explore how the Liquid Lie hijacks our integrity—especially in moments of high emotion and low inhibition. I talk about what happens when alcohol fuels desire faster than your conscience can catch up… and why real leadership starts with staying sober.

 

This isn’t about policing men—it’s about showing them a better way.

 

A SELF-led way.

 

Because when we ditch the bottle, we get our boundaries back.

 

And when we lead from presence, we don’t just avoid harm.

We model something better.

 

Something safer.

Something stronger.

Something real.

 

 

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Trying to Quit Drinking? Stop Playing Devil’s Advocate with the People You Love

You know what’s lonelier than being single?

Being with someone who makes you feel completely alone.

 

This episode cuts deep into a subtle but devastating behaviour many of us carry—especially in our closest relationships. It’s the Devil’s Advocate PART. The one that pretends to be logical, reasonable, mature… but actually pushes people away.

 

Lee opens up about a recent rupture with his wife, Liza. Not through shouting. Not through cruelty. But through a quiet abandonment disguised as “seeing both sides.” Sound familiar?

 

Whether you’re the one playing Devil’s Advocate—or the one who’s been reasoned into silence—this episode will show you the emotional cost of intellect without presence, and how STRIVERS rebuild intimacy without a drink in hand.

 

You don’t need to win the argument.

You need to stop being alone inside it.

 

 

 

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Fentanyl vs Alcohol Deaths – The Liquid Lie Exposed

Two killers.

One gets banned. The other gets branded.

 

In today’s episode, I expose the brutal hypocrisy behind how our society talks about drugs.

Fentanyl is seen as a crisis.

Alcohol is celebrated like a dinner guest.

 

And yet alcohol kills 3 million people every year—double the U.S. death toll of fentanyl.

 

Why does one spark outrage while the other gets a toast?

 

We explore the lies politicians won’t touch, the silence that costs lives, and the cultural conditioning that keeps us trapped in the Liquid Lie.

 

If you’ve ever wondered why quitting alcohol felt impossible—this episode might just show you why it was never your fault.

 

STRIVERS don’t play along. We name it. We walk away. We live SELF-led, AFAF.

 

Tune in and start seeing clearly.

 

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Don’t Drink? You Must Be Gay – Pride, Shame, and the Liquid Lie

Don’t drink?

You must be gay.

That’s what they said—not because they knew, but because they needed to wound.

Because in a world ruled by the Liquid Lie, the fastest way to make you conform is to make you ashamed of who you are.

 

This episode goes deep into Pride, shame, masculinity, and what it means to survive a culture that punishes difference with a pint. Whether you’re queer or not, if you’ve ever hidden your truth to fit in, this one’s for you.

 

We talk about South Wales, rugby clubs, toxic masculinity, and the invisible contract boys sign the moment they pick up a drink. And we end with a vow—to stop drinking not to be perfect… but to be free.

 

 

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Alcohol Lied to You About Being Enough – Don’t Fall for It

You don’t drink because you love the taste.

You drink because—deep down—you’ve been taught that you’re not enough without it.

 

Today’s episode is a straight-up callout of the Liquid Lie that links your self-worth to the glass in your hand.

 

We’re diving into shame, perfectionism, and the impossible game of chasing approval through alcohol. We’re talking about Brené Brown, the inner child who still aches for love, and what it really takes to build your worth from the inside out.

 

This one’s for every STRIVER who’s ever felt like walking away from alcohol meant walking away from being “fun,” “lovable,” or “worthy.”

 

You are already enough. Let this episode remind you.

 

 

 

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Without Alcohol, I Can’t Speak My Truth—Right?

You used to feel bold after a few drinks—witty, fearless, invincible.

Now you’re alcohol-free, or trying to be… and suddenly, silence.

You think you’ve lost your edge. That you’re not assertive. That you can’t speak your truth.

 

But what if that’s not true?

What if that’s just a PART of you trying to protect a younger, scared version of yourself?

 

In this Coaches Corner episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, we dismantle the belief that alcohol made us confident. We explore how to shift from PARTS-led narratives to SELF-led conversations—without a drop of booze.

 

You’ll learn how to:

– Spot the inner voices that keep you silent

– Use motivational interviewing to shift from fear to truth

– Build the courage to speak up from a place of clarity—not chaos

 

If you’ve ever felt like you can’t express yourself without a drink in hand, this episode is for you.

 

 

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