1000 Days Sober Podcast

Why Complaining Keeps You Drinking—and How to Reclaim Your Power

Ever catch yourself spiralling into complaint after complaint—about your boss, your partner, your kids, the world? You’re not alone. But what if those complaints are doing more than just venting? What if they’re actually keeping you stuck in a loop that makes alcohol feel like the only escape?

 

In this episode, I reveal why constant complaining is a dead giveaway that you’re playing the Outside-In game—and how shifting to an Inside-Out approach can transform your relationship with alcohol and with life.

 

We’ll explore the mirror questions that can change everything, show you how to shift from PARTS to SELF, and remind you: responsibility doesn’t mean fault—it means freedom.

 

This one’s tender. And powerful. Let’s get into it.

 

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Swapping Booze for Tea – Gen Z’s New Rebellion

I’m sat in Starbucks watching five Gen Z women laughing like they’ve just had three glasses of prosecco. But they haven’t.

 

They’re sipping chai lattes and matchas—not a drop of booze in sight. No slurred words. No shamey flashbacks. Just connection, presence, and joy.

 

Turns out, you don’t need alcohol to come alive.

 

This isn’t a phase. It’s a quiet revolution. A generation raised on filters and FOMO is choosing tea over tequila—and presence over poison.

 

And here’s the good news: You don’t have to be Gen Z to join them. You just have to become a STRIVER.

 

Because being alcohol-free-as-fuck isn’t about getting sober. It’s about getting curious. And when you do, you realise:

You were never broken. You were just sold a broken story.

 

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Struggling With Being Alcohol-Free? You Might Be Ignoring the Map

Struggling With Being Alcohol-Free? You Might Be Ignoring the Map

 

We had a map. We just didn’t use it.

 

In today’s episode, I share a stressful hospital visit that became a metaphor for the alcohol-free journey. Liza was hobbling on crutches, and I was fuming at the world—until I realised we’d ignored the one thing designed to make our lives easier: the map.

 

If you’re on the path to becoming alcohol-free-as-fuck, but you keep going your own way, this one’s for you. We’ll unpack the Illusion of Explanatory Depth, the Dunning-Kruger Effect, and Psychological Reactance—and how these traps make you think the STRIVE Method isn’t for you.

 

But what if the issue isn’t the map? What if it’s the PARTS of you that don’t trust it?

 

Tune in to discover how trusting the path—and your SELF—is the real shortcut to freedom.

 

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Since COVID: Booze Got a Pass, We Paid the Price

They shut the pubs. They shut the gyms. They shut the churches.

But the liquor stores? They stayed open.

 

In this episode, I dive into the dark absurdity of pandemic priorities—where bread, toilet paper, and booze were deemed essential, but human connection was not. We’ll unpack the rise in alcohol-specific deaths since 2020, and why we reached for the bottle instead of each other when life got uncomfortable.

 

This one’s not just a pandemic post-mortem. It’s a wake-up call.

Because the next time the world breaks down, we don’t need a drink.

We need our SELF.

 

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Why You Can’t Stop Drinking – Look at Who You’re With

You didn’t choose your first drinking crew—they just happened. But that group? They shaped your values, your habits, and the way you coped with life.

 

In this episode, Lee explores how your environment—and especially your friendships—might be keeping you stuck in the Liquid Lie. This isn’t just about alcohol. It’s about the people you surround yourself with. Are they helping you grow? Or keeping you small?

 

You’ll learn how swapping the pub for a circle of soulful connection isn’t a loss—it’s an upgrade.

 

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Am I Drinking Too Much?

You’ve typed it into Google at 2am, hoping for clarity: “Am I drinking too much?”

 

But if you’re asking that, you already know the answer.

 

In this episode, Lee Davy introduces a powerful reframe using the Conscious Leadership Group’s “above the line / below the line” concept—and blends it with Internal Family Systems to offer something deeper than just counting units.

 

Forget moderation. Forget the guidelines. This is about awareness, intention, and SELF.

Above the line or below it—that’s the real question.

 

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Afraid of Who You’ll Be Without Alcohol? Here’s the Truth.

Ever feel like you’re crumbling without alcohol—and that maybe you won’t like who you become without it? You’re not alone.

 

In this episode, Lee dives deep into one of the scariest parts of becoming alcohol-free-as-fuck: the identity collapse. That disorienting feeling when you’ve stopped drinking but don’t yet know who you are—or who you’re becoming. It’s not failure. It’s transformation.

 

He explains how the STRIVE Method maps to the psychological model of Positive Disintegration—and why falling apart might be the most beautiful thing that’s ever happened to you.

 

Listen in if you’re in that middle place where everything feels uncertain. You’re not broken. You’re becoming.

 

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Feel Unsafe Around Your Partner? It’s Your Nervous System Talking

Ever wonder why your partner’s energy feels like a trigger? Why your body goes into fight-or-flight when nothing seems “wrong”? It’s not weakness. It’s your nervous system.

 

In this episode, I share a deeply personal story about how I misread my wife’s energy—not because of her actions, but because of my childhood conditioning. When we stop blaming and start tracking what’s happening inside us, everything shifts.

 

If you’ve ever blamed your partner for your reactivity, or felt guilt for needing space, this one’s for you.

 

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The Hidden System Fueling Your Pain (and How Alcohol Makes It Worse)

You’re living in systems you can’t see. Systems that shape your beliefs, nudge your behaviours, and whisper stories that aren’t even yours.

 

This week, I’m unpacking a powerful new study on endometriosis and alcohol—plus what it reveals about invisible systems that keep us stuck. Whether you have a womb or not, this episode is for anyone questioning the stories we’ve been sold about alcohol and pain.

 

What if the glass of wine they told you would help… is actually making it worse?

 

Let’s break the silence, expose the Liquid Lie, and reclaim our power to heal.

 

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The Firefighter Trap – Why Chaos Keeps You Drinking

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You’re not just putting out fires.

You’re feeding them.

And they’re keeping you drinking.

 

In this episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, Lee unpacks the Firefighter Trap—the PART of you addicted to chaos, always solving, fixing, reacting. It looks like strength… but it’s a performance that keeps you trapped.

 

🔥 What you’ll learn:

✅ Why chaos feels safer than stillness

✅ How firefighting feeds your PARTS

✅ What it means to live from SELF, not reactivity

✅ How to stop performing and start healing

 

PS:

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