1000 Days Sober Podcast

Ep 81: Steven Pfleiderer on Resistance, Communication and the Mystery of Love

Stephen Pfleiderer on Resistance, Communication, and the Mystery of Love Welcome to Episode # 80 of The Alcohol & Addiction Podcast the show designed to help you reduce the leverage that alcohol has in your life and your relationships. Today, I am joined by Stephen Pfleiderer Stephen is a certified interventionist, addiction specialist and recovery coach. He is the founder of San Francisco Intervention, which offers a variety of services to help people overcome addiction and realise their full potential. Stephen studied Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) under David Burns, MD, the famed author of Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy who also invented TEAM Therapy, an advanced form of CBT. He is the first interventionist in the United States to achieve Level 3 certification as a TEAM therapist. Stephen also received certifications from the founders of ARISE Intervention, Systemic Family Intervention and most recently the California Consortium of Addiction Programs and Professionals. Also, Stephen is a proud member of the Network of Independent Interventionists, as well as the Association of Intervention Specialists. San Francisco Intervention's services, which includes a continuing care model, are based on over 50 methods to address almost any behavioural problem, including unhealthy habits and addictions. In this podcast, we talk about the two forms of resistance in process and outcome resistance, the importance of communication, and the mystery of love. Podcast Takeaways San Franciscio Intervention (http://www.sfintervention.com) A list of books and other addiction related resources (http://sfintervention.com/resources/) Outro Thanks for listening. If you find the AA Podcast a valuable resource, then please subscribe on iTunes, tell your friends about it and share the love. You would make me a very happy man indeed if you could rate us on iTunes. Click on this link for a quick and easy guide on how to do that. http://www.needyhelper.com/how-to-submit-an-itunes-podcast-review/ If you are lonely or feel like nobody understands your desire to quit drinking, then you need a like-minded community of people quickly. If this is you then head over to the Needy Helper Hub where we offer a free community forum where you get to talk to people who are in your position. Here is the link: https://needyhelper.mykajabi.com/pages/forum If you are struggling with an addiction and you want help quitting and moving on with your life then why not work with me one-to-one. I have quit smoking, alcohol, recreational drugs, sugar, gambling, pornography, meat and dairy. I have also quit a 20-year career, started a new business from scratch, went through a painful divorce where I literally lost everything. If you feel I can help you then email me at needyhelper@gmail.com to book your free consultation.

Ep 80: A Vegan Diet Isn’t Necessarily a Healthy Diet

A Vegan Diet Isn’t Necessarily a Healthy Diet Welcome to Episode # 80 of The Alcohol & Addiction Podcast the show designed to help you reduce the leverage that alcohol has in your life and your relationships. In this episode, I continue from where I left of last week, talking about veganism. The content was inspired by visiting my third vegan fair in recent months and finding a theme - most of the stalls sell nothing but cakes! So why turn vegan? Is it to be healthy? I’m not so sure. Outro Thanks for listening. If you are lonely or feel like nobody understands your desire to quit drinking, then you need a like-minded community of people quickly. If this is you then head over to the Needy Helper Hub where we offer a free community forum where you get to talk to people who are in your position. Here is the link: https://needyhelper.mykajabi.com/pages/forum If you are struggling with an addiction and you want help quitting and moving on with your life then why not work with me one-to-one. I have quit smoking, alcohol, recreational drugs, sugar, gambling, pornography, meat and dairy. I have also quit a 20-year career, started a new business from scratch, went through a painful divorce where I literally lost everything. If you feel I can help you then email me at needyhelper@gmail.com to book your free consultation. If you find the AA Podcast a valuable resource, then please subscribe on iTunes, tell your friends about it and share the love. You would make me a very happy man indeed if you could rate us on iTunes. Click on this link for a quick and easy guide on how to do that. http://www.needyhelper.com/how-to-submit-an-itunes-podcast-review/

Episode #79: AMA #1 - Veganism & Caffeine

Ask Me Anything #1: Veganism & Caffeine Welcome to Episode # 79 of The Alcohol & Addiction Podcast the show designed to help you reduce the leverage that alcohol has in your life and your relationships. Today, I am answering two questions submitted by members of the Needy Helper community. 1. What the best advice would you give to anyone who has always been a meat eater considering making the jump to veganism? 2. How do I quit caffeine? Are there any merits in de-caffeinated tea and coffee? Podcast Takeaways The Liver Cleanse Diet (LCD) by Dr Sandra Cabot (http://www.needyhelper.com/book-26-of-52-the-liver-cleansing-diet-by-sandra-cabot-md/) The Omnivores Dilemma by Michael Pollan http://www.needyhelper.com/what-the-omnivores-dilemma-can-teach-us-about-food/ Why We Love Dogs, Eat Pigs and Wear Cows by Melanie Joy http://www.needyhelper.com/why-we-love-dogs-eat-pigs-and-wear-cows-by-melanie-joy-a-book-review/ Earthlings Documentary - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S5U8U2Ryowo Animal Charity Evaluators (https://animalcharityevaluators.org/) https://www.youtube.com/embed/ztJmUN_3v7g?ecver Outro Thanks for listening. If you want to help support the Alcohol & Addiction Podcast; keep it free of sponsors and adverts, and to help me focus on helping people reduce the leverage alcohol has on their lives on a full-time basis, then please join the Needy Helper Hub Movement. You can find details at www.needyhelper.com. If you find the AA Podcast a valuable resource, then please subscribe on iTunes, tell your friends about it and share the love. You would make me a very happy man indeed if you could rate us on iTunes. Click on this link for a quick and easy guide on how to do that. http://www.needyhelper.com/how-to-submit-an-itunes-podcast-review/ If you are struggling with an addiction and you want help quitting and moving on with your life then why not work with me one-to-one. I have quit smoking, alcohol, recreational drugs, sugar, gambling, pornography, meat and dairy. I have also quit a 20-year career, started a new business from scratch, went through a painful divorce where I literally lost everything. If you feel I can help you then email me at needyhelper@gmail.com to book your free consultation.

Ep 78: Deborah Polverino on Quitting Smoking; Values, and Overcoming Shame

Deborah Polverino on Quitting Smoking; Values, and Dealing With Shame Welcome to Episode # 78 of The Alcohol & Addiction Podcast the show designed to help you reduce the leverage that alcohol has in your life and your relationships. Debbie is one of my closest friends, and in her time, a top notch therapist with over 20-years of experience working alongside the likes of Paul McKenna. I invited her onto the show to help members of the Needy Helper community who are struggling to quit smoking. We talk about her experience helping people quit smoking, the importance of defeating the ‘I Can’t” attitude, living in accordance with your values, doing the work, tapping and other tools, and the importance of sharing your problems with your partner, failure to do so, and the link to shame. Podcast Takeaways Steve Pavlina Articles on Values Part 1 - http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/living-your-values/ Part 2 - http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/02/living-your-values-2/ List of Values - http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/11/list-of-values/ Brene Brown Ted Talk on Shame - https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_listening_to_shame Brene Brown Ted Talk on Vulnerability - https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability Richard Bandler (NLP)- http://richardbandler.com/ Brad Yates (EFT) - http://www.bradyates.net/ Thanks for listening. If you want to help support the Alcohol & Addiction Podcast; keep it free of sponsors and adverts, and to help me focus on helping people reduce the leverage alcohol has on their lives on a full-time basis, then please join the Needy Helper Hub Movement. You can find details at http://www.needyhelper.com. If you find the AA Podcast a valuable resource, then please subscribe on iTunes, tell your friends about it and share the love. You would make me a very happy man indeed if you could rate us on iTunes - itunes.apple.com/gb/podcast/alcohol-addiction-podcast/id1101562756?mt=2 Click on this link for a quick and easy guide on how to do that. http://www.needyhelper.com/how-to-submit-an-itunes-podcast-review/

Ep 77: Mark Williams on Post Natal Depression For Men, Mental Illness & His Decision to Quit Alcohol

Fathers Reaching Out Founder Mark Williams on His Struggles With Alcohol; Mental Illness, and Much More. Welcome to Episode # 77 of The Alcohol & Addiction Podcast the show designed to help you reduce the leverage that alcohol has in your life and your relationships. When I was ten, I moved from England to Wales. I hated it. I was so different to everyone. I belonged to a tribe of one. Then one day this lad asked me to join his football team. His name was Mark Williams. When we got older and left school, I would see Mark in the local market selling cable. He was always infectious and had this great positive aura surrounding him. But he was dying inside. Mark's wife, Michelle, had given birth to a son called Ethan. Michelle suffered from post-natal depression, and that put a lot of pressure on Mark to try and bring the money in, be a good Dad, and learn how to support his wife. Mark would also suffer from postnatal depression, and when he looked for help, it was absent. In desperation, Mark started a blog called Fathers Reaching Out where he talked openly about his struggles with post-natal depression. It took off in a big way. Today, Mark travels all over the world talking about post-natal depression and mental illness with fathers. Every time I turn on the TV or radio, Mark is on there talking about saving people's lives. In 2012, he won the Father of the Year and Wales Local Hero awards at the Pride of Britain awards. He has met the Royal Family, visited the Houses of Parliament, and now he speaks to the Needy Helper. Why? Mark has reached a turning point in his life. He knows alcohol is hurting his ability to become the very best version of himself and he wants to change that. In this podcast, we talk about his decision to quit alcohol and also talk to his wife, Michelle about the impact his drinking has on their relationship. We also speak of the problems that 200,000 single fathers in the UK face every day, including their battles with mental illness; the importance of meaning & purpose, and of course, post-natal depression with men. Podcast Takeaways Fathers Reaching Out Website - http://www.reachingoutpmh.co.uk/about-us Fathers Reaching Out Twitter - https://twitter.com/MarkWilliamsROW?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw Fathers Reaching Out Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/fathersreaching/ Outro Thanks for listening. If you want to help support the Alcohol & Addiction Podcast; keep it free of sponsors and adverts, and to help me focus on helping people reduce the leverage alcohol has on their lives on a full-time basis, then please join the Needy Helper Hub Movement. You can find details at http://www.needyhelper.com. If you find the AA Podcast a valuable resource, then please subscribe on iTunes, tell your friends about it and share the love. You would make me a very happy man indeed if you could rate us on iTunes.

Ep 76: David Burns on Melting Resistance

Welcome to Episode # 76 of The Alcohol & Addiction Podcast the show designed to help you reduce the leverage that alcohol has in your life and your relationships. Today’s guest is David D. Burns the author of Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy, a book that has sold well over five million copies in America, alone. David is an adjunct clinical professor emeritus of Psychiatry and Behavioural Sciences at Stanford. He is the Gandalf of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT). In this episode, David and I talk about the role that tears and laughter play in therapy, Resistance and some tips and techniques to melt it, the importance of developing metrics to understand if therapy is working, relapse prevention, the human condition, how a cat taught him about low self esteem, and much more. Podcast Takeaways Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy (https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/0380810336) The Feeling Good Podcast (https://itunes.apple.com/gb/podcast/feeling-good-podcast/id1171155453?mt=2) David D. Burns Website (https://feelinggood.com/about/) The World Transformation Movement (https://www.humancondition.com/) David D. Burns Ted Talk (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H1T5uMeYv9Q) 10 Days to Great Self-Esteem by David D. Burns (https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/0091825628) Overcoming Low-Self Esteem by Melanie Fennell (https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1472119290) Philosophical Investigations by Ludwig Wittgenstein (https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1405159294) Outro Thanks for listening. If you want to help support the Alcohol & Addiction Podcast; keep it free of sponsors and adverts, and to help me focus on helping people reduce the leverage alcohol has on their lives on a full time basis, then please join the Needy Helper Hub Movement. You can find details at www.needyhelper.com. If you find the AA Podcast a valuable resource, then please subscribe on iTunes, tell your friends about it and share the love. You would make me a very happy man indeed if you could rate us on iTunes.

Ep 75: Brook McKenzie on the Devastation Alcohol Causes in the Family Home

Welcome to Episode # 75 of The Alcohol & Addiction Podcast the show designed to help you reduce the leverage that alcohol has in your life and your relationships. Today’s guest is Brook McKenzie an Outreach Coordinator and Family Liaison for New Method Wellness. As an experienced interventionist, McKenzie works directly with addicts’ families to facilitate an interruption of the loved one’s active addiction cycle, discontinue enabling factors, and to help expedite the addict’s entry into treatment. In this episode, I draw on all of Brook's experience to help people learn how to reduce the leverage alcohol has in their relationships, especially when there are children involved, using my life experience in this area as a testbed. Podcast Takeaways New Method Wellness (http://newmethodwellness.com/) Outro Thanks for listening. Are you in a relationship that's suffering because of alcohol? If so, then why not join the Needy Helper movement, the purpose of which is to lessen the negative effects alcohol has on your relationships by working on communication and connection. We achieve this through the creation of a community forum of like-minded people and training course designed to help you move away from a life of alcohol. When signing up, you will receive my new course: “Finding Your Sober Voice in Relationships.”-http://needyhelper.mykajabi.com/store/biQtFTc7 If you find the AA Podcast a valuable resource, then please subscribe on iTunes, tell your friends about it and share the love. You would make me a very happy man indeed if you could rate us on iTunes.

Ep 74: Jennifer Matesa on Sex in Recovery

Jennifer Matesa on Sex in Recovery Welcome to Episode # 74 of The Alcohol & Addiction Podcast the show designed to help you reduce the leverage that alcohol has in your life and your relationships. Today’s guest is Jennifer Matesa, the founder of the addiction and recovery blog Guinevere Gets Sober and the author of four non-fiction books about body, mind, and human Wellbeing Including the most recent Sex in Recovery: A Meeting Between The Sheets. Jennifer speaks and writes widely, and teaches writing at the University of Pittsburgh. Her commitment to removing the stigma from addiction and recovery earned her a fellowship at the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA). In this podcast episode, we talk about sex, sex, and more sex. Podcast Takeaways Guinevere Gets Sober (http://guineveregetssober.com/) Jennifer Matesa Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/jennifer.matesa) Jennifer Matesa Twitter (https://twitter.com/Guinevere64) Outro Thanks for listening. Are you in a relationship that’s suffering because of alcohol? If so, then why not join the Needy Helper movement, the purpose of which is to lessen the negative effects alcohol has on your relationships by working on communication, connection and curating a new life. We achieve this through the creation of a community forum of like-minded people and training course designed to help you move away from a life of alcohol. When signing up you will receive my new course: “Finding Your Sober Voice in Relationships.” - https://needyhelper.mykajabi.com/store/biQtFTc7 If you find the AA Podcast a valuable resource, then please subscribe on iTunes, tell your friends about it and share the love. You would make me a very happy man indeed if you could rate us on iTunes.

Ep 73: Kate Bee on How Alcohol Specifically Effect Women; Debunking Alcohol's Myth and More

Welcome to Episode # 73 of The Alcohol & Addiction Podcast the show designed to help you reduce the leverage that alcohol has in your life and your relationships. Today’s guest is Kate Bee, the founder of The Sober School, a website dedicated to helping women navigate sobriety without feeling deprived or miserable. The Sober School provides modern, inspiring and accessible support for high-functioning women who are fed up with drinking too much. Kate's mission is to remove the stigma, misinformation and fear that surrounds addiction. Her work is informed by her own struggle with alcohol and her determination to recover outside of AA and the 12-step system. Kate drew on her own experience to create an online coaching programme, Getting Unstuck. The course helps women understand why they really drink, so they can change their relationship with alcohol for good. Kate is also a freelance journalist. She lives near Manchester in the UK. In this podcast episode, we learn about Kate's back story, the importance of educating the next generation and we question whether people's attitudes towards alcohol will eventually reach the same levels of stigma associated with smoking. We also touch upon the role that AA plays in the alcohol recovery arena, the value of getting your thoughts down on paper and why The Sober School only accepts females into its ranks. Podcast Takeaways The Sober School (http://thesoberschool.com/) The Sober School Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/thesoberschool/?fref=ts) Kate Bee Twitter (https://twitter.com/TheSoberSchool?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor) Thanks for listening. Are you in a relationship that’s suffering because of alcohol? If so, then why not join the Needy Helper movement, the purpose of which is to lessen the negative effects alcohol has on your relationships by working on communication, connection and curating a new life. We achieve this through the creation of a community forum of like minded people and training course designed to help you move away from a life of alcohol. When signing up you will receive my new course: “How Safe Are Your Relationships From Alcohol? 36 Books That Helped Me Connect, Communicate & Curate a New Life.” - https://needyhelper.mykajabi.com/store/biQtFTc7 If you find the AA Podcast a valuable resource, then please tell your friends about it and share the love. You would make me a very happy man indeed if you could rate us on iTunes.

Ep 72: Debating The Brain Disease Model With Susan Peirce Thompson

Debating The Alcohol Brain Disease Model With Susan Peirce Thompson Welcome to Episode # 72 of The Alcohol & Addiction Podcast the show designed to help you reduce the leverage that alcohol has in your life and your relationships. Today’s guest is Susan Peirce Thompson, Ph.D. - a psychology professor, a brain and cognitive scientist, and an expert in the psychology of eating. She is President of the Institute for Sustainable Weight Loss and CEO of Bright Line Eating Solutions, a company dedicated to helping people achieve long-term, sustainable weight loss. Her program utilizes cutting-edge research to explain how the brain blocks weight loss and every day she teaches people how to undo that damage so they can live Happy, Thin, and Free. Susan was invited onto the show to talk about the problems many people have with sugar after quitting alcohol. But the conversation veered into a debate over the validity of the alcohol is a brain disease model; the role that dogma and bias play in our teachings post recovery and much more. Podcast Takeaways Susan Peirce Thompson Blog (http://susanpeircethompson.com/) Bright Line Eating (http://susanpeircethompson.com/bright-line-eating/) Susan Peirce Thompson Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/SusanPeirceThompson/) Susan Peirce Thompson Twitter (https://twitter.com/drspthompson) Unbroken Brain by Maia Szalavitz (http://www.needyhelper.com/the-alcohol-addiction-podcast-episode-50-maia-szalavitz/) Allen Carr Easyway to Control Alcohol (http://www.needyhelper.com/easy-way-to-control-alcohol-by-allen-carr/) Outro Thanks for listening. Are you in a relationship that’s suffering because of alcohol? If so, then why not join the Needy Helper movement, the purpose of which is to lessen the negative effects alcohol has on your relationships by working on communication, connection and curating a new life. We achieve this through the creation of a community forum of like minded people and training course designed to help you move away from a life of alcohol. When signing up you will receive my new course: “How Safe Are Your Relationships From Alcohol? 36 Books That Helped Me Connect, Communicate & Curate a New Life.” If you find the AA Podcast a valuable resource, then please tell your friends about it and share the love. You would make me a very happy man indeed if you could rate us on iTunes.