1000 Days Sober Podcast

Afraid to Say No? The System That Keeps You Drinking

You press the “Do Not Disturb” button and expect peace—but they walk in anyway.

 

That’s what happens when we try to set boundaries in a world that’s wired to ignore them. Whether it’s hotel staff ignoring a sign or your mate ignoring your choice not to drink, the message is the same: your needs don’t matter.

 

In this episode, I share a story from Montenegro that exposed how broken systems train us to abandon ourselves—and how that internalised override keeps us stuck in the Liquid Lie. We’ll talk about emotional boundaries, the systems we inherited, and why alcohol becomes the go-to escape when saying “no” feels impossible.

 

If you’ve ever been afraid to say stop—this one’s for you.

 

 

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Wabi Sabi and the Shame Spiral of Alcohol Reliance

You made a promise. Then you broke it.

You drank. Again.

And now the shame spiral begins…

 

“You’re weak.”

“You’re broken.”

“You’ll never change.”

 

Sound familiar?

 

In this episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, we explore the Japanese philosophy of Wabi Sabi—a radically beautiful perspective that challenges everything the Liquid Lie taught you about perfection, failure, and worth.

 

This isn’t just about relapse. It’s about rewriting your relationship with shame.

 

You’ll hear how one simple comment from my wife sent me spinning—and how I used Wabi Sabi to reclaim my SELF.

 

We’re not here to be flawless.

We’re here to be real. Cracked. Honest. Gold-filled.

 

🎧 Listen now—because the crack isn’t the problem.

It’s the portal to your power.

 

 

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Can I Be Alcohol-Free Forever?

Can you be alcohol-free as fuck… forever?

 

That question terrifies people. It shakes your identity, your culture, and your story.

 

Because if you say yes… something has to die.

 

And if you say no… you never get free.

 

In this raw Coaching Corner episode, I walk STRIVERS through the fear behind the “forever” question. We’re not tiptoeing around this one—we’re naming the PARTS that panic, the memories that bind us, and the nervous system that says, “Not safe.”

 

But here’s the twist: it’s not about alcohol.

 

It’s about letting go of the version of you that needed it to feel alive.

 

You’ll learn why “one day at a time” isn’t enough—and how STRIVERS train for one trigger at a time. We’ll break it down, Lincoln City style, and teach you how to win your next 15 minutes.

 

If the forever question haunts you, this episode will set you free.

 

Let’s go.

 

 

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15 Years Alcohol-Free-as-Fuck: Here’s How I Did It

I didn’t quit drinking because I hit rock bottom.

I quit because I made a vow—and I never broke it.

 

In this raw and reflective episode, I take you inside the truth of what happened when I finally saw through the Liquid Lie. No rehab. No AA. Just one sentence that changed everything:

“I will never drink again.”

 

But what makes a vow stick?

Why do some commitments feel shaky… and others feel unshakable?

 

I unpack the five N’s of alcohol, the drama triangle, and the reason your PARTS panic when you try to let go of the bottle. I share the exact moment my Fundamental Choice came from SELF—and what it taught me about peace, pressure, and power.

 

If you’re wrestling with the idea of quitting, or wondering how to make your vow last, this episode is your mirror.

 

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Smell Booze, Remember Pain: Why It Doesn’t Break Me Anymore

 

You can delete a photo. Bury a memory. Pretend it never happened.

 

But you can’t un-smell it.

 

The stench of stale alcohol is more than unpleasant—it’s a time machine. One whiff and suddenly you’re back in the storm. The broken glass. The glazed-over eyes. The pain you tried so hard to escape.

 

In this episode, I break down how alcohol manipulates our most powerful sense—smell—to cement emotional memories that keep us drinking. I’ll share my own story of how the smell of Bacardi once triggered my trauma… and why it doesn’t control me anymore.

 

We’ll explore new research that shows why the same smell can make one person crave alcohol and another want to run.

 

This isn’t just about memory.

 

It’s about programming.

 

And how to break free from the Liquid Lie—so you can remember who you truly are.

 

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Socialising Without Alcohol: What You’re Really Afraid Of

You think you’re afraid of not drinking at the party. But you’re not. You’re afraid of standing in the truth—while everyone else is sleepwalking through a lie.

 

In this episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, we’re diving into the real reason socialising without alcohol feels so scary. Spoiler: it’s got nothing to do with the drink and everything to do with safety, connection, and being truly seen.

 

Lee shares what it’s like to walk into a loud, glittering party—AFAF—and listen to the PARTS that want to run. But instead of drinking, he experiments with truth. Presence. And SELF-led courage.

 

If you’ve ever felt awkward, anxious, or invisible in social settings without a drink in hand—this one’s for you.

 

Let’s tear the Liquid Lie apart and find out what’s really underneath your fear.

 

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Sunk Cost Fallacy – Why You Keep Drinking (Even When You Hate It)

You’re not staying because you love it—you’re staying because you’ve invested too much to leave.

 

Whether it’s your nightly glass of wine, your crumbling relationship, or the identity you’ve built around being a ‘drinker’—this episode uncovers the real reason it’s so hard to walk away: the sunk cost fallacy.

 

We go deep into how your PARTS cling to safety and familiarity, even when it hurts. And we offer a new way forward—one led by your SELF.

 

This episode is a wake-up call, a mirror, and a door to freedom.

 

Listen in and ask yourself:

 

— What are you still holding onto just because you’ve held it so long?

— What would it look like to let go, not in shame, but in love?

— And what kind of life could you build if you stopped letting the past decide your future?

 

Because you didn’t waste your time—you just spent it.

And now… you get to choose where you invest next.

 

 

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The Wine Trial That Proves the World’s Still Drunk

What if I told you scientists were running a clinical trial…

…to find out if a known carcinogen could improve your health?

 

No, this isn’t satire. It’s Spain. And it’s wine. And it’s the Liquid Lie in a lab coat.

 

In this episode, I break down the €2.4 million Spanish study that’s got 10,000 people drinking wine every day—under the banner of science. But here’s the truth:

 

This isn’t research.

It’s a justification project.

And it’s not just absurd—it’s dangerous.

 

Let’s talk about how culture uses absurdity to wrap poison in respectability, how science gets hijacked by our deepest fears of change, and why the Liquid Lie survives on denial, not data.

 

We’ll also explore what it means to step out of the charade—and live from SELF, AFAF.

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Love Someone Who Drinks? Here’s What Actually Helps

You love them.

You want to help.

But nothing seems to work.

 

They keep drinking—and you keep breaking.

 

In this raw and powerful episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, Lee Davy speaks directly to the STRIVERS who aren’t battling alcohol themselves—but love someone who is. If you’ve tried to fix, rescue, or reason with someone stuck in the Liquid Lie, this one’s for you.

 

Lee shares what actually helps—not from PARTS, but from SELF.

 

You’ll learn how to:

 

– Stop trying to change them

– Build boundaries that set you free

– Communicate with compassion instead of control

– Heal yourSELF first, so you can hold space when they’re ready

 

This episode isn’t just about helping them—it’s about saving you.

 

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This Is Why You Reach for Alcohol on Fridays

You say you’re lonely on Fridays. But are you really? Or are you just bored—uncomfortable with your own company?

 

In this powerful episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, Lee Davy explores the deeper truth behind why so many of us reach for alcohol at the end of the week. It’s not about celebration. It’s about escape. And often, the ache in your chest isn’t loneliness—it’s the absence of SELF.

 

Lee breaks down the difference between boredom and disconnection, challenges the myth that alcohol connects us, and offers a new way to reclaim your Friday nights with purpose, presence, and peace.

 

If you’ve ever sat in silence and wondered, “What now?”—this one’s for you.

 

🎧 Listen in and rediscover what it means to come home to yourSELF.

 

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