1000 Days Sober Podcast

Nathan Simpson on Becoming Someone That Doesn't Drink Alcohol

In December, I received the following email from Nathan Simpson. Lee, I just wanted to drop you and email to say thank you for all you do. I found your podcast a little under a year ago when I decided I had to stop drinking alcohol. I had my last drink on the 27th December 2017. I have listened to you religiously ever since. Over the past year my life and health has transformed and it was all a result of me finding you and then finding the Allen Carr Book. The photo attached is me in Amsterdam in November 2017 and of me just this week. Your no nonsense, straight to the point approach really resonates with me. I tell people about your podcast as much as I can. Keep doing what you are doing, I am eternally grateful. The photo that he saved me was remarkable. The transformation, incredible. I asked him to come on the show, and he agreed. It was a poignant moment because the podcast took place on the date of his 365th day without alcohol. Nathan is 34 years old, married with two young children (a boy aged 2 years and a girl aged 10 months). He was born and grew up in Carlisle, Cumbria, UK. Nathan left Carlisle aged 17 to join the Army where he spent the next 14 years living in the South of England. After leaving the Army in 2016 Nathan moved back to Carlisle where he now works as a Field Service Engineer. Nathan's hobbies are running ultra-marathons, hiking, fitness and spending time with my family in the outdoors. Enjoy. The Truth About Alcohol We Are Not Alcoholics, and We Refuse to Be Anonymous February Taster If you want to learn how to relax in social situations without drinking alcohol, then you need the February Taster. The Taster is your peek under the skin of the TTAA Philosophy. An opportunity to feel what it’s like to experience one month as someone that doesn’t drink alcohol. You work in a peer group setting with me as your guide. 27-daily coaching videos and assignments. Lots of love. A few kicks up the arse. Registration remains open until January 31st, and here’s how the money side of it works. The cost of the program is £99 (GBP), but you can get as much as 25% off if you sign up early. Sign up before 5th Jan, and the price is £75 Sign up before 12th Jan, and the price is £80 Sign up before 19th Jan, and the price is £85 Sign up before 26th Jan, and the price is £90 http://www.thetruthaboutalcohol.co.uk/p/TTAA%20Taster

Personality Transplant Part II

My daughter needs a smoothie. My wife asks me to get it. 40-minutes there, and 40-minutes back. Selfie-stick in my hand. A defenceless mobile phone, my fifth limb, shivering without its armour. “I can’t...” Excuses fly from my mouth like moths from horror movie corpses. Me. Mine. Ego. First. Winner. I sat on the bench once. I was nine-years-old; in bits. The coach didn’t pick me. I wasn’t good enough. I needed someone to pick the bits up, stick them in an envelope and post them to me, so I glue them back together again in the safety of my personal, private hell. I don’t want to be this person. Nine doesn’t go into 43. It’s an imperfect fit. Should I accept who I am, quirks and all? Pick up the broom and sweep the imperfections underneath the mouse mat? Hope that nobody steals my tunes and plays them on the radio? I want one of those jackets that the cub scouts wear with pride. Decorate me like a Christmas tree. The only thing I can accept is I need to change. I need a personality transplant. I said it once, and I am about to say it again. The Truth About Alcohol We Are Not Alcoholics, and We Refuse to Be Anonymous February Taster If you want to learn how to relax in social situations without drinking alcohol, then you need the February Taster. The Taster is your peek under the skin of the TTAA Philosophy. An opportunity to feel what it’s like to experience one month as someone that doesn’t drink alcohol. You work in a peer group setting with me as your guide. 27-daily coaching videos and assignments. Lots of love. A few kicks up the arse. Registration remains open until January 31st, and here’s how the money side of it works. The cost of the program is £99 (GBP), but you can get as much as 25% off if you sign up early. Sign up before 5th Jan, and the price is £75 Sign up before 12th Jan, and the price is £80 Sign up before 19th Jan, and the price is £85 Sign up before 26th Jan, and the price is £90 http://www.thetruthaboutalcohol.co.uk/p/TTAA%20Taster

How To Relax In Social Situations

Charlotte asks: “How do you relax in social situations?” Lee Davy answers the question in today’s podcast, covering the following points. - How alcohol creates anxiety, and how that affects your ability to relax. - How becoming someone that doesn’t drink alcohol increases your confidence. - How the addiction creates a bias in our brain leading us to believe our social occasions are more fun than they are. - How to experiment when socialising. - The joy of 6 - 9 pm. - The darkness of 9 pm+ The Truth About Alcohol We Are Not Alcoholics, and We Refuse to Be Anonymous February Taster If you want to learn how to relax in social situations without drinking alcohol, then you need the February Taster. The Taster is your peek under the skin of the TTAA Philosophy. An opportunity to feel what it’s like to experience one month as someone that doesn’t drink alcohol. You work in a peer group setting with me as your guide. 27-daily coaching videos and assignments. Lots of love. A few kicks up the arse. Registration remains open until January 31st, and here’s how the money side of it works. The cost of the program is £99 (GBP), but you can get as much as 25% off if you sign up early. Sign up before 5th Jan, and the price is £75 Sign up before 12th Jan, and the price is £80 Sign up before 19th Jan, and the price is £85 Sign up before 26th Jan, and the price is £90 https://www.thetruthaboutalcohol.co.uk/p/TTAA%20Taster

The Revolving Door

“You cannot walk in and out of me like a revolving door I have too many miracles happening inside me to be your convenient option - not your hobby.” Rupi Kaur. February Taster The Taster is your peek under the skin of the TTAA Philosophy. An opportunity to feel what it’s like to experience one month as someone that doesn’t drink alcohol. You work in a peer group setting with me as your guide. 27-daily coaching videos and assignments. Lots of love. A few kicks up the arse. Registration remains open until January 31st, and here’s how the money side of it works. The cost of the program is £99 (GBP), but you can get as much as 25% off if you sign up early. Sign up before 5th Jan, and the price is £75 Sign up before 12th Jan, and the price is £80 Sign up before 19th Jan, and the price is £85 Sign up before 26th Jan, and the price is £90 http://www.thetruthaboutalcohol.co.uk/p/TTAA%20Taster

Christmas Presence

I would be slightly buzzed. Not enough to need the bucket, but enough to make it difficult to rise from the pit. My boy had barely slept 2-3 hours but was bouncing on his bed like Tigger. Watching him open his presents was always one of my favourite times of the year. The anticipation. The joy. The gratitude. I loved it all. After cleaning away the wrapping, it was off to his grandparents. More presents. More love. More joy. And. Then. The. Clock. Struck. Noon. Off I went with my Dad to the pub, leaving my son and his toys behind, and the women to deal with the dinner. There was something strange about Christmas Day drinking. The alcohol felt more potent. We would stick six pints down our throat before heading home. The dinner soaked up most of the alcohol, but I was never present. I couldn’t drink more during my lunch, so my head began to hurt. Then came the tiredness. My son wanted to play. I needed sleep. After waking up, it was time to go to the pub for my cousins birthday. I couldn’t even tell my son that I would play with him on Boxing Day because that was Yard of Ale day down the Non-Pol. If my boy wanted to play with me, he would have to wait until the 27th, two days after Santa had delivered the goods. This year, as someone that doesn’t drink alcohol, I woke up with a clear head, more excited than my two-year-old daughter. I was entirely present for her, as was my wife. In the afternoon, we went to my sister-in-law’s house. Nobody drank alcohol, we had fun, ate grub, played with our toys, and then all went to watch a movie before coming home and doing it all again. It will be like this forever, because I am someone that doesn’t drink alcohol, and I talk about it during today’s podcast episode Christmas Presence. The Truth About Alcohol We Are Not Alcoholics, and We Refuse to Be Anonymous January Taster Rhonda has just finished the December Taster, and she wanted to share her feedback with you. “The Taster provided me with the opportunity to uncover the reasons I was drinking. With Lee’s guidance and compassion, I’ve learned that alcohol has no place in my life. Allowing myself to be vulnerable here has set me free to become a better version of myself. I’m very grateful to be a part of the Strive community where I’m no longer alone. Thank you so much for opening my eyes!” If you want to become a better version of yourself, then registration for the January Taster remains open until Monday, December 31: http://www.thetruthaboutalcohol.co.uk/p/TTAA%20Taster

Why I Won't Finish In The Realm Of The Hungry Ghosts

I read a fucking book?! I didn’t go to rehab, take a 12-step meeting, take Antabuse - I didn’t even have a craving. I read Allen Carr’s Easyway to Control Alcohol and never touched another drop after being a complete and utter lush for decades. I know the notion is as controversial as setting up a 'coffin for hire' startup (I have considered it), but for me, I found quitting alcohol easy (becoming someone that doesn’t drink alcohol is more challenging). We need to make addiction complicated because it owns us. We need people to witness our struggles. We need to feel pain and suffering. But it doesn’t have to be this way. Not for you. Or you. Or you. If I can do this, so can you. My mantra is to keep it simple stupid, and I found Gabor Mate’s book In The Realm of Hungry Ghosts to be the opposite. I am sure it has changed the lives of many people, but it’s not the approach that I take when discussing alcohol addiction, and I explain why in today’s podcast. The Truth About Alcohol We Are Not Alcoholics, and We Refuse to Be Anonymous I want to say well done to Tony for being the last person to finish the Life-Changing Experience (now known as the Intensive). I am sure Tony will agree, that TTAA philosophy is life-changing. It’s profound. It’s deep. But it’s also simple. If like me you like to keep things simple, then why not join the TTAA way? Strive. The Taster. The Intensive. Profound. Life-Changing. Simple. www.thetruthaboutalcohol.co.uk

A Review Of You Are A Badass At Making Money By Jen Sincero

I am in debt. I owe my father £2,000, and I have £6,000 in credit card debt. In 2009, when I became someone that doesn’t drink alcohol, I began that journey with £30,000 in credit card debt. I knew more about performing hysterectomies than how to get out of that hole, but get out of it I did. I took a vow to never be in debt again. Nine years later, I earn more income than at any other time in my life, and for the first time since taking that vow, I am in debt. I am not materialistic, but I have been spending more than I earn, mainly on food with a few disasters thrown in for good measure (Visa application costs, and flight alterations due to earthquakes, to name a few). It’s time for a change. It’s time to regain control. The stress and anxiety that debt creates are more painful than the pain produced by following a strict budget. So, I decided to turn to Jen Sincero, and her book You Are a Badass at Making Money, and she never even mentioned budgeting. Check out my review, right here. Enjoy. The Truth About Alcohol We Are Not Alcoholics, and We Refuse to Be Anonymous This podcast aired on Thursday 27th December, and that means you still have four days to join the January Taster, the monthly experience designed to help you feel what it’s like to be someone that doesn’t drink alcohol for 31 days. To give you further insight into how the whole thing works, I will be hosting two live webinars on Friday 28th December at 11:00 and 19:00 (Pacific Time) to take you through the curriculum. If you would like to join me, then head to www.thetruthaboutalcohol.co.uk and follow the instructions shown on the pop-up, or email me at thetruthaboutalcohol@gmail.com.

Man Refuses to Wear Face Cream Because of What People Think; Becomes Addicted to Alcohol

Before I go to bed, I stick a blob on my forehead, one on each cheek, a smidgen on the nose, and a dab beneath my lip. Then I rub. I'm 43. In the morning, I look old. As the day wears on, my wrinkles fall away like the wearing of a creased t-shirt. There was no face cream when I was young. Had the word got out, people would have called me gay or a girl. There wasn't a single openly gay person in our village. To be gay was the antonym of being a man. And you had to be a man. There was no face cream. People like us didn't wear face cream. But we did drink alcohol. The Truth About Alcohol We Are Not Alcoholics And Refuse to be Anonymous If you want to listen to more musings on the correlation between refusing to wear face cream, and drinking alcohol, then fortunately for you that's what I bang on about in today's AA Podcast episode. The January Taster It's time to stop doing what everyone else is doing. Yes, it made sense when we were younger. It made us likeable. It gave us access to the right tribe. But we're not children anymore. It's time to grow up and embrace our autonomy. Everyone you know drinks alcohol. Nobody you know would pay for an experience to help them stop. It's time to buck the trend. It's time to do what's right. The January Taster starts on, yes you've guessed it, January 1st, and we would love to have you join everyone else brave enough to do something different: https://www.thetruthaboutalcohol.co.uk/p/TTAA%20Taster

Why You'll Need a Personality Transplant When You Become Someone That Doesn't Drink Alcohol

I wanted perfection. That was the goal. I knew I would never make it (I'm not fucking mental), but the thought of striving for perfection gave me hope that I would always be pushing myself to the max. I don’t want to be perfect, today. I only want to be the best person I can be at any given moment. Last night, I wasn't that person when my daughter woke me up in the early hours of the morning and began asking for her mother. I was tired, ratty and had a short fuse. Zia threw her Panda Bear at me, and I reacted by throwing it on the floor. I was short, aggressive and impatient. I called her a liar for saying she wanted to go to the toilet after I had taken off her Jim-jams and held her hand while she sat on the loo. "I'm happy," she would say in between bouts of tears. Then my wife came to bed and took over. Serene. Calm. Tranquil. Empathic. Compassionate. Supportive. Loving. There is a difference between stopping drinking and becoming someone that doesn't drink alcohol. The former is decisive action. The latter is a soul-changing paradigm shift that starts with alcohol and ends with you moving on from this world with a smile on your face because you achieved your life purpose. When you take the vow to become someone that doesn't drink alcohol we are like the caterpillar heading into the chrysalis, we have to liquidate our old personality and create a new one. It begins by understanding our core motive and then using that information to create new values, belief systems and habits that eventually become our brand spanking new personality and lifestyle. During the TTAA Intensive, we call this process 'Filling The White Space," but before you head to the TTAA website to join this life-changing experience, listen to today's podcast, and learn more about how I am currently managing my personality transplant. The Truth About Alcohol We Are Not Alcoholics and Refuse to be Anonymous This episode airs on Christmas Day. As a child, Christmas Day was the best day of the year. So why as an adult did I try to erase two decades of Christmas Day memories by drinking alcohol? I was an addict. I believed that alcohol was normal and pleasurable when the truth is clear to me now. Alcohol is a drug, and we drink it because alcoholism is an invisible, violent and dominant belief system - a belief so hidden, that we choose to sacrifice one of the most special days of our lives for a few moments in its arms. Today. Just today. Don’t drink alcohol. Remember what it was like to FEEL on Christmas Day. Have a good one, and I hope to see you in the January Taster beginning in less than a week. If you haven't yet signed up, then give yourself a personal Christmas present by following this: https://www.thetruthaboutalcohol.co.uk/p/TTAA%20Taster

How Thinking Someone Who Smokes Marijuana is a Skank Helped Me Quit Alcohol

The stench is the trigger sending the scent of smoke slithering up my nostril like a sea snake; anger was the antidote. I saw her standing on the porch in a dirty pink nightshirt and rabbit slippers, a joint glued to hand and mouth, mobile phone glued to hand and ear. Then came the rolling thunder of the internal narrative. “Look at that skank!” In my vanilla world, marijuana is a drug, and my beliefs around drugs, drilled into me by my parents and the media, is to ignore them like the plague. We don’t want drug takers in our tribe. They will fuck you up. This internal narrative acts as a shield against any invader trying to poke holes in my belief system. I don't want to be a skank. And so if anyone ever offers me a spliff, my automatic response will be of disgust, and if you stick that between your motorcycle handlebars, and look at it as you drive to work each morning, it won't take long before it holds like a top of the range fake eyeball. Let me ask you a question. How do you feel about alcohol? If you want to learn more about my thoughts on this subject, then you're in luck because I cover it during my recent podcast episode. The Truth About Alcohol We Are Not Alcoholics, And We Refuse to be Anonymous Many of us drink alone, but that doesn't mean we have to stop on our own. Rhonda, Claes, Elsa, Mark and Phil are currently taking the December Taster experiencing what it's like to be someone that doesn't drink alcohol for a month. If you want to be a part of the January Taster then it begins on January 1st: https://www.thetruthaboutalcohol.co.uk/p/TTAA%20Taster If you want more than a Taster, then why not try our Intensive experience? https://www.thetruthaboutalcohol.co.uk/p/TTAAIntensive