The Truth About Alcohol (Why Quitting Feels So Hard)

Ep 85: Justice Schanfarber on Contradictions, Manipulations & The Tyranny of Orgasm

Welcome to Episode # 85 of The Alcohol & Addiction Podcast the show designed to help you reduce the leverage that alcohol has in your life and your relationships. In the past few weeks, three people have arrived at the Community Forum looking to share their troubles with like-minded people. It's not a stampede, but it's a start. If you need to confide in someone about your problems with alcohol, then follow the link beneath this episode on the Needy Helper website and come and join a fantastic group of people. I also have a free giveaway for you. Well, sort of. Are you a fan of the author Steven Pressfield? If not, you should be. Well, I have a bunch of copies of The War of Art, Turning Pro and The Authentic Swing to give away. If you want a copy then leave a review and rating on iTunes, take a screenshot, send it to me at needyhelper@gmail.com with your name, address, and the name of the book you would like, and the community will select the best one who will receive the free book. Onto today’s guest, Justice Schanfarber. Justice is a couples counsellor and author specialising in sex and relationships. His articles, featured in The Huffington Post and Good Men Project, have been read by over 10 million people worldwide and translated into five languages. Justice's relationship book, The Re-Connection Handbook for Couples - Insights and practices for cultivating love, sex, and intimacy (even in difficult times), is available on his website, where you can also download a free sample chapter. Justice works with couples everywhere by telephone or Skype. Visit his website at http://www.JusticeSchanfarber.com During our conversation, we talk about the importance of accepting our partner's contradictions, the manipulative practice of gaslighting, conflict management, the importance of self-expression, and the tyranny of orgasm. Relationships and the way we exist within them is a critical cog in the alcohol machine, and I found this to be one of the most interesting and enlightening conversations in the history of the podcast. Podcast Takeaways Justice Schanfarber’s book The Re-Connection Handbook for Couples - Insights and practices for cultivating love, sex, and intimacy (even in difficult times) is fantastic, and EVERYONE should buy it. Justice also has an eight-week intensive relationship course, and if you are struggling to find a connection with your partner, then I strongly suggest you check it out. Both the course and the book can be found at http://www.JusticeSchanfarber.com The Needy Helper Forum (https://needyhelper.mykajabi.com/pages/forum) How to rate and review the AA Podcast on iTunes http://www.needyhelper.com/how-to-submit-an-itunes-podcast-review/

Ep 84: James Quigley With Advice on How to Quell Anxiety

Welcome to Episode # 84 of The Alcohol & Addiction Podcast the show designed to help you reduce the leverage that alcohol has in your life and your relationships. Before we begin, I want to urge you to head over to the Needy Helper Forum and join a movement of like-minded people all doing their best to escape from the clutches of alcohol. You will find empathy, support, help and guidance in the form of interaction with community members and training videos. It would also be a big help to me if you could rate this show on iTunes, Soundcloud, or Stitcher, and tell a friend about it, today. Today's guest is James Quigley, the UK's leading anxiety coach and author of Little Book for Anxiety. He helps people overcome all types of anxiety, to become relaxed and start living life again. His Facebook blog gets over a million views each month, covering tips and techniques to overcome stress, general anxiety, OCD, insomnia, panic attacks and the secrets to reframing the mind to win the long game. During our conversation, we talk about the anxiety that stems from my financial worries with James giving me some advice on how to manage that. We also cover procrastination, anxiety leading to alcohol use, and much more. Podcast Takeaways Little Book for Anxiety - http://amzn.to/2mJtTbZ Eckhart Tolle: The Power of Now - http://amzn.to/2btQoMe Alan Watts - http://www.alanwatts.org/ Emotional Awareness by The Dalai Lama and Paul Ekman - http://amzn.to/2mJA4wJ The Michael Neill Dragon Story - https://www.michaelneill.org/video1038/ James Quigley Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/jamesquigleyofficial The Needy Helper Forum - https://needyhelper.mykajabi.com/pages/forum How to rate and review the AA Podcast on iTunes - http://www.needyhelper.com/how-to-submit-an-itunes-podcast-review/

Ep 83: Greg Suchy Shares His Fresh Approach Towards Healing From Addiction

Greg Suchy Shares His Fresh Approach Towards Healing From Addiction Welcome to Episode # 83 of The Alcohol & Addiction Podcast the show designed to help you reduce the leverage that alcohol has in your life and your relationships. Before we begin, I want to urge you to head over to the Needy Helper Forum and join a movement of like-minded people all doing their best to escape from the clutches of alcohol. You will find empathy, support, help and guidance in the form of interaction with community members and training videos. It would also be a big help to me if you could rate this show on iTunes, Soundcloud, or Stitcher, and tell a friend about it, today. Today’s guest is Greg Suchy, a recovery coach who uses a simple, yet effective approach to help people find real freedom from addiction and a love for life that can only come from a deep understanding of our own innate well-being. His personal experience with addiction and his unique journey through recovery into freedom offers hope to those struggling to free themselves from addiction and habits. In 2012 he had a profound spiritual experience that completely changed the way he experiences life and took away his need to escape from life by use of drugs and alcohol. With encouragement from his wife, friends and colleagues, Greg started Innate Health Recovery in September of 2015. His main focus is on pointing people toward their own innate health that exists beneath the illusion of addiction. He accomplishes this through a deep understanding of where our experience of life really comes from. Podcast Takeaways Greg email: innatehealthrecovery@gmail.com Greg Suchy Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/985734518146019/ Allen Carr’s Easyway to Control Alcohol - http://amzn.to/2n9NgcN The Serenity Principle by Joseph Bailey - http://amzn.to/2n9NSPV The Little Book of Big Change by Amy Johnson - http://amzn.to/2nwLZ0r The Needy Helper Forum (https://needyhelper.mykajabi.com/pages/forum) How to rate and review the AA Podcast on iTunes http://www.needyhelper.com/how-to-submit-an-itunes-podcast-review/

Ep 82: Mary Schiller on The Power of Thought

Mary Schiller on The Power of Thought Welcome to Episode # 82 of The Alcohol & Addiction Podcast the show designed to help you reduce the leverage that alcohol has in your life and your relationships. Today’s guest is author and coach, Mary Schiller, who is passionate about helping people feel truly free -- free to live without stress, and free to pursue what they really want to do in life. I recently heard her talking about life on the Jamie Smart Podcast and read her book You Have Permission: How to Stop Doing Stuff You Don’t Want to do and Start Doing Stuff You Do Want to Do and invited her onto the show to talk about her personal transformation and the power of thought. In this episode we talk about Mary’s abusive first marriage, PTSD, the power of thought and the influence that Michael Neill had on her life after she read The Inside-Out Revolution. Podcast Takeaways Mary Schiller Podcast (http://www.maryschiller.com) The Magic Space (http://www.themagicspace.us) The Inside-Out Revolution (https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1781800790) Jamie Smart (http://www.jamiesmart.com/) George and Linda Pransky (http://pranskyandassociates.com/) Mara Gleason (http://onethought.com/) Outro Thanks for listening. If you are struggling with an addiction and you want help quitting and moving on with your life then why not work with me one-to-one. I have quit smoking, alcohol, recreational drugs, sugar, gambling, pornography, meat and dairy. I have also quit a 20-year career, started a new business from scratch, went through a painful divorce where I literally lost everything. If you feel I can help you then email me at needyhelper@gmail.com to book your free consultation. If you find the AA Podcast a valuable resource, then please subscribe on iTunes, tell your friends about it and share the love. You would make me a very happy man indeed if you could rate us on iTunes. Click on this link for a quick and easy guide on how to do that. http://www.needyhelper.com/how-to-submit-an-itunes-podcast-review/ If you are lonely or feel like nobody understands your desire to quit drinking, then you need a like-minded community of people quickly. If this is you then head over to the Needy Helper Hub where we offer a free community forum where you get to talk to people who are in your position. Here is the link: https://needyhelper.mykajabi.com/pages/forum

Ep 81: Steven Pfleiderer on Resistance, Communication and the Mystery of Love

Stephen Pfleiderer on Resistance, Communication, and the Mystery of Love Welcome to Episode # 80 of The Alcohol & Addiction Podcast the show designed to help you reduce the leverage that alcohol has in your life and your relationships. Today, I am joined by Stephen Pfleiderer Stephen is a certified interventionist, addiction specialist and recovery coach. He is the founder of San Francisco Intervention, which offers a variety of services to help people overcome addiction and realise their full potential. Stephen studied Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) under David Burns, MD, the famed author of Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy who also invented TEAM Therapy, an advanced form of CBT. He is the first interventionist in the United States to achieve Level 3 certification as a TEAM therapist. Stephen also received certifications from the founders of ARISE Intervention, Systemic Family Intervention and most recently the California Consortium of Addiction Programs and Professionals. Also, Stephen is a proud member of the Network of Independent Interventionists, as well as the Association of Intervention Specialists. San Francisco Intervention's services, which includes a continuing care model, are based on over 50 methods to address almost any behavioural problem, including unhealthy habits and addictions. In this podcast, we talk about the two forms of resistance in process and outcome resistance, the importance of communication, and the mystery of love. Podcast Takeaways San Franciscio Intervention (http://www.sfintervention.com) A list of books and other addiction related resources (http://sfintervention.com/resources/) Outro Thanks for listening. If you find the AA Podcast a valuable resource, then please subscribe on iTunes, tell your friends about it and share the love. You would make me a very happy man indeed if you could rate us on iTunes. Click on this link for a quick and easy guide on how to do that. http://www.needyhelper.com/how-to-submit-an-itunes-podcast-review/ If you are lonely or feel like nobody understands your desire to quit drinking, then you need a like-minded community of people quickly. If this is you then head over to the Needy Helper Hub where we offer a free community forum where you get to talk to people who are in your position. Here is the link: https://needyhelper.mykajabi.com/pages/forum If you are struggling with an addiction and you want help quitting and moving on with your life then why not work with me one-to-one. I have quit smoking, alcohol, recreational drugs, sugar, gambling, pornography, meat and dairy. I have also quit a 20-year career, started a new business from scratch, went through a painful divorce where I literally lost everything. If you feel I can help you then email me at needyhelper@gmail.com to book your free consultation.

Ep 80: A Vegan Diet Isn’t Necessarily a Healthy Diet

A Vegan Diet Isn’t Necessarily a Healthy Diet Welcome to Episode # 80 of The Alcohol & Addiction Podcast the show designed to help you reduce the leverage that alcohol has in your life and your relationships. In this episode, I continue from where I left of last week, talking about veganism. The content was inspired by visiting my third vegan fair in recent months and finding a theme - most of the stalls sell nothing but cakes! So why turn vegan? Is it to be healthy? I’m not so sure. Outro Thanks for listening. If you are lonely or feel like nobody understands your desire to quit drinking, then you need a like-minded community of people quickly. If this is you then head over to the Needy Helper Hub where we offer a free community forum where you get to talk to people who are in your position. Here is the link: https://needyhelper.mykajabi.com/pages/forum If you are struggling with an addiction and you want help quitting and moving on with your life then why not work with me one-to-one. I have quit smoking, alcohol, recreational drugs, sugar, gambling, pornography, meat and dairy. I have also quit a 20-year career, started a new business from scratch, went through a painful divorce where I literally lost everything. If you feel I can help you then email me at needyhelper@gmail.com to book your free consultation. If you find the AA Podcast a valuable resource, then please subscribe on iTunes, tell your friends about it and share the love. You would make me a very happy man indeed if you could rate us on iTunes. Click on this link for a quick and easy guide on how to do that. http://www.needyhelper.com/how-to-submit-an-itunes-podcast-review/

Episode #79: AMA #1 - Veganism & Caffeine

Ask Me Anything #1: Veganism & Caffeine Welcome to Episode # 79 of The Alcohol & Addiction Podcast the show designed to help you reduce the leverage that alcohol has in your life and your relationships. Today, I am answering two questions submitted by members of the Needy Helper community. 1. What the best advice would you give to anyone who has always been a meat eater considering making the jump to veganism? 2. How do I quit caffeine? Are there any merits in de-caffeinated tea and coffee? Podcast Takeaways The Liver Cleanse Diet (LCD) by Dr Sandra Cabot (http://www.needyhelper.com/book-26-of-52-the-liver-cleansing-diet-by-sandra-cabot-md/) The Omnivores Dilemma by Michael Pollan http://www.needyhelper.com/what-the-omnivores-dilemma-can-teach-us-about-food/ Why We Love Dogs, Eat Pigs and Wear Cows by Melanie Joy http://www.needyhelper.com/why-we-love-dogs-eat-pigs-and-wear-cows-by-melanie-joy-a-book-review/ Earthlings Documentary - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S5U8U2Ryowo Animal Charity Evaluators (https://animalcharityevaluators.org/) https://www.youtube.com/embed/ztJmUN_3v7g?ecver Outro Thanks for listening. If you want to help support the Alcohol & Addiction Podcast; keep it free of sponsors and adverts, and to help me focus on helping people reduce the leverage alcohol has on their lives on a full-time basis, then please join the Needy Helper Hub Movement. You can find details at www.needyhelper.com. If you find the AA Podcast a valuable resource, then please subscribe on iTunes, tell your friends about it and share the love. You would make me a very happy man indeed if you could rate us on iTunes. Click on this link for a quick and easy guide on how to do that. http://www.needyhelper.com/how-to-submit-an-itunes-podcast-review/ If you are struggling with an addiction and you want help quitting and moving on with your life then why not work with me one-to-one. I have quit smoking, alcohol, recreational drugs, sugar, gambling, pornography, meat and dairy. I have also quit a 20-year career, started a new business from scratch, went through a painful divorce where I literally lost everything. If you feel I can help you then email me at needyhelper@gmail.com to book your free consultation.

Ep 78: Deborah Polverino on Quitting Smoking; Values, and Overcoming Shame

Deborah Polverino on Quitting Smoking; Values, and Dealing With Shame Welcome to Episode # 78 of The Alcohol & Addiction Podcast the show designed to help you reduce the leverage that alcohol has in your life and your relationships. Debbie is one of my closest friends, and in her time, a top notch therapist with over 20-years of experience working alongside the likes of Paul McKenna. I invited her onto the show to help members of the Needy Helper community who are struggling to quit smoking. We talk about her experience helping people quit smoking, the importance of defeating the ‘I Can’t” attitude, living in accordance with your values, doing the work, tapping and other tools, and the importance of sharing your problems with your partner, failure to do so, and the link to shame. Podcast Takeaways Steve Pavlina Articles on Values Part 1 - http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/12/living-your-values/ Part 2 - http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/02/living-your-values-2/ List of Values - http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/11/list-of-values/ Brene Brown Ted Talk on Shame - https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_listening_to_shame Brene Brown Ted Talk on Vulnerability - https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability Richard Bandler (NLP)- http://richardbandler.com/ Brad Yates (EFT) - http://www.bradyates.net/ Thanks for listening. If you want to help support the Alcohol & Addiction Podcast; keep it free of sponsors and adverts, and to help me focus on helping people reduce the leverage alcohol has on their lives on a full-time basis, then please join the Needy Helper Hub Movement. You can find details at http://www.needyhelper.com. If you find the AA Podcast a valuable resource, then please subscribe on iTunes, tell your friends about it and share the love. You would make me a very happy man indeed if you could rate us on iTunes - itunes.apple.com/gb/podcast/alcohol-addiction-podcast/id1101562756?mt=2 Click on this link for a quick and easy guide on how to do that. http://www.needyhelper.com/how-to-submit-an-itunes-podcast-review/

Ep 77: Mark Williams on Post Natal Depression For Men, Mental Illness & His Decision to Quit Alcohol

Fathers Reaching Out Founder Mark Williams on His Struggles With Alcohol; Mental Illness, and Much More. Welcome to Episode # 77 of The Alcohol & Addiction Podcast the show designed to help you reduce the leverage that alcohol has in your life and your relationships. When I was ten, I moved from England to Wales. I hated it. I was so different to everyone. I belonged to a tribe of one. Then one day this lad asked me to join his football team. His name was Mark Williams. When we got older and left school, I would see Mark in the local market selling cable. He was always infectious and had this great positive aura surrounding him. But he was dying inside. Mark's wife, Michelle, had given birth to a son called Ethan. Michelle suffered from post-natal depression, and that put a lot of pressure on Mark to try and bring the money in, be a good Dad, and learn how to support his wife. Mark would also suffer from postnatal depression, and when he looked for help, it was absent. In desperation, Mark started a blog called Fathers Reaching Out where he talked openly about his struggles with post-natal depression. It took off in a big way. Today, Mark travels all over the world talking about post-natal depression and mental illness with fathers. Every time I turn on the TV or radio, Mark is on there talking about saving people's lives. In 2012, he won the Father of the Year and Wales Local Hero awards at the Pride of Britain awards. He has met the Royal Family, visited the Houses of Parliament, and now he speaks to the Needy Helper. Why? Mark has reached a turning point in his life. He knows alcohol is hurting his ability to become the very best version of himself and he wants to change that. In this podcast, we talk about his decision to quit alcohol and also talk to his wife, Michelle about the impact his drinking has on their relationship. We also speak of the problems that 200,000 single fathers in the UK face every day, including their battles with mental illness; the importance of meaning & purpose, and of course, post-natal depression with men. Podcast Takeaways Fathers Reaching Out Website - http://www.reachingoutpmh.co.uk/about-us Fathers Reaching Out Twitter - https://twitter.com/MarkWilliamsROW?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw Fathers Reaching Out Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/fathersreaching/ Outro Thanks for listening. If you want to help support the Alcohol & Addiction Podcast; keep it free of sponsors and adverts, and to help me focus on helping people reduce the leverage alcohol has on their lives on a full-time basis, then please join the Needy Helper Hub Movement. You can find details at http://www.needyhelper.com. If you find the AA Podcast a valuable resource, then please subscribe on iTunes, tell your friends about it and share the love. You would make me a very happy man indeed if you could rate us on iTunes.

Ep 76: David Burns on Melting Resistance

Welcome to Episode # 76 of The Alcohol & Addiction Podcast the show designed to help you reduce the leverage that alcohol has in your life and your relationships. Today’s guest is David D. Burns the author of Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy, a book that has sold well over five million copies in America, alone. David is an adjunct clinical professor emeritus of Psychiatry and Behavioural Sciences at Stanford. He is the Gandalf of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT). In this episode, David and I talk about the role that tears and laughter play in therapy, Resistance and some tips and techniques to melt it, the importance of developing metrics to understand if therapy is working, relapse prevention, the human condition, how a cat taught him about low self esteem, and much more. Podcast Takeaways Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy (https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/0380810336) The Feeling Good Podcast (https://itunes.apple.com/gb/podcast/feeling-good-podcast/id1171155453?mt=2) David D. Burns Website (https://feelinggood.com/about/) The World Transformation Movement (https://www.humancondition.com/) David D. Burns Ted Talk (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H1T5uMeYv9Q) 10 Days to Great Self-Esteem by David D. Burns (https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/0091825628) Overcoming Low-Self Esteem by Melanie Fennell (https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1472119290) Philosophical Investigations by Ludwig Wittgenstein (https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1405159294) Outro Thanks for listening. If you want to help support the Alcohol & Addiction Podcast; keep it free of sponsors and adverts, and to help me focus on helping people reduce the leverage alcohol has on their lives on a full time basis, then please join the Needy Helper Hub Movement. You can find details at www.needyhelper.com. If you find the AA Podcast a valuable resource, then please subscribe on iTunes, tell your friends about it and share the love. You would make me a very happy man indeed if you could rate us on iTunes.