1000 Days Sober Podcast

Why I Won't Finish In The Realm Of The Hungry Ghosts

I read a fucking book?! I didn’t go to rehab, take a 12-step meeting, take Antabuse - I didn’t even have a craving. I read Allen Carr’s Easyway to Control Alcohol and never touched another drop after being a complete and utter lush for decades. I know the notion is as controversial as setting up a 'coffin for hire' startup (I have considered it), but for me, I found quitting alcohol easy (becoming someone that doesn’t drink alcohol is more challenging). We need to make addiction complicated because it owns us. We need people to witness our struggles. We need to feel pain and suffering. But it doesn’t have to be this way. Not for you. Or you. Or you. If I can do this, so can you. My mantra is to keep it simple stupid, and I found Gabor Mate’s book In The Realm of Hungry Ghosts to be the opposite. I am sure it has changed the lives of many people, but it’s not the approach that I take when discussing alcohol addiction, and I explain why in today’s podcast. The Truth About Alcohol We Are Not Alcoholics, and We Refuse to Be Anonymous I want to say well done to Tony for being the last person to finish the Life-Changing Experience (now known as the Intensive). I am sure Tony will agree, that TTAA philosophy is life-changing. It’s profound. It’s deep. But it’s also simple. If like me you like to keep things simple, then why not join the TTAA way? Strive. The Taster. The Intensive. Profound. Life-Changing. Simple. www.thetruthaboutalcohol.co.uk

A Review Of You Are A Badass At Making Money By Jen Sincero

I am in debt. I owe my father £2,000, and I have £6,000 in credit card debt. In 2009, when I became someone that doesn’t drink alcohol, I began that journey with £30,000 in credit card debt. I knew more about performing hysterectomies than how to get out of that hole, but get out of it I did. I took a vow to never be in debt again. Nine years later, I earn more income than at any other time in my life, and for the first time since taking that vow, I am in debt. I am not materialistic, but I have been spending more than I earn, mainly on food with a few disasters thrown in for good measure (Visa application costs, and flight alterations due to earthquakes, to name a few). It’s time for a change. It’s time to regain control. The stress and anxiety that debt creates are more painful than the pain produced by following a strict budget. So, I decided to turn to Jen Sincero, and her book You Are a Badass at Making Money, and she never even mentioned budgeting. Check out my review, right here. Enjoy. The Truth About Alcohol We Are Not Alcoholics, and We Refuse to Be Anonymous This podcast aired on Thursday 27th December, and that means you still have four days to join the January Taster, the monthly experience designed to help you feel what it’s like to be someone that doesn’t drink alcohol for 31 days. To give you further insight into how the whole thing works, I will be hosting two live webinars on Friday 28th December at 11:00 and 19:00 (Pacific Time) to take you through the curriculum. If you would like to join me, then head to www.thetruthaboutalcohol.co.uk and follow the instructions shown on the pop-up, or email me at thetruthaboutalcohol@gmail.com.

Man Refuses to Wear Face Cream Because of What People Think; Becomes Addicted to Alcohol

Before I go to bed, I stick a blob on my forehead, one on each cheek, a smidgen on the nose, and a dab beneath my lip. Then I rub. I'm 43. In the morning, I look old. As the day wears on, my wrinkles fall away like the wearing of a creased t-shirt. There was no face cream when I was young. Had the word got out, people would have called me gay or a girl. There wasn't a single openly gay person in our village. To be gay was the antonym of being a man. And you had to be a man. There was no face cream. People like us didn't wear face cream. But we did drink alcohol. The Truth About Alcohol We Are Not Alcoholics And Refuse to be Anonymous If you want to listen to more musings on the correlation between refusing to wear face cream, and drinking alcohol, then fortunately for you that's what I bang on about in today's AA Podcast episode. The January Taster It's time to stop doing what everyone else is doing. Yes, it made sense when we were younger. It made us likeable. It gave us access to the right tribe. But we're not children anymore. It's time to grow up and embrace our autonomy. Everyone you know drinks alcohol. Nobody you know would pay for an experience to help them stop. It's time to buck the trend. It's time to do what's right. The January Taster starts on, yes you've guessed it, January 1st, and we would love to have you join everyone else brave enough to do something different: https://www.thetruthaboutalcohol.co.uk/p/TTAA%20Taster

Why You'll Need a Personality Transplant When You Become Someone That Doesn't Drink Alcohol

I wanted perfection. That was the goal. I knew I would never make it (I'm not fucking mental), but the thought of striving for perfection gave me hope that I would always be pushing myself to the max. I don’t want to be perfect, today. I only want to be the best person I can be at any given moment. Last night, I wasn't that person when my daughter woke me up in the early hours of the morning and began asking for her mother. I was tired, ratty and had a short fuse. Zia threw her Panda Bear at me, and I reacted by throwing it on the floor. I was short, aggressive and impatient. I called her a liar for saying she wanted to go to the toilet after I had taken off her Jim-jams and held her hand while she sat on the loo. "I'm happy," she would say in between bouts of tears. Then my wife came to bed and took over. Serene. Calm. Tranquil. Empathic. Compassionate. Supportive. Loving. There is a difference between stopping drinking and becoming someone that doesn't drink alcohol. The former is decisive action. The latter is a soul-changing paradigm shift that starts with alcohol and ends with you moving on from this world with a smile on your face because you achieved your life purpose. When you take the vow to become someone that doesn't drink alcohol we are like the caterpillar heading into the chrysalis, we have to liquidate our old personality and create a new one. It begins by understanding our core motive and then using that information to create new values, belief systems and habits that eventually become our brand spanking new personality and lifestyle. During the TTAA Intensive, we call this process 'Filling The White Space," but before you head to the TTAA website to join this life-changing experience, listen to today's podcast, and learn more about how I am currently managing my personality transplant. The Truth About Alcohol We Are Not Alcoholics and Refuse to be Anonymous This episode airs on Christmas Day. As a child, Christmas Day was the best day of the year. So why as an adult did I try to erase two decades of Christmas Day memories by drinking alcohol? I was an addict. I believed that alcohol was normal and pleasurable when the truth is clear to me now. Alcohol is a drug, and we drink it because alcoholism is an invisible, violent and dominant belief system - a belief so hidden, that we choose to sacrifice one of the most special days of our lives for a few moments in its arms. Today. Just today. Don’t drink alcohol. Remember what it was like to FEEL on Christmas Day. Have a good one, and I hope to see you in the January Taster beginning in less than a week. If you haven't yet signed up, then give yourself a personal Christmas present by following this: https://www.thetruthaboutalcohol.co.uk/p/TTAA%20Taster

How Thinking Someone Who Smokes Marijuana is a Skank Helped Me Quit Alcohol

The stench is the trigger sending the scent of smoke slithering up my nostril like a sea snake; anger was the antidote. I saw her standing on the porch in a dirty pink nightshirt and rabbit slippers, a joint glued to hand and mouth, mobile phone glued to hand and ear. Then came the rolling thunder of the internal narrative. “Look at that skank!” In my vanilla world, marijuana is a drug, and my beliefs around drugs, drilled into me by my parents and the media, is to ignore them like the plague. We don’t want drug takers in our tribe. They will fuck you up. This internal narrative acts as a shield against any invader trying to poke holes in my belief system. I don't want to be a skank. And so if anyone ever offers me a spliff, my automatic response will be of disgust, and if you stick that between your motorcycle handlebars, and look at it as you drive to work each morning, it won't take long before it holds like a top of the range fake eyeball. Let me ask you a question. How do you feel about alcohol? If you want to learn more about my thoughts on this subject, then you're in luck because I cover it during my recent podcast episode. The Truth About Alcohol We Are Not Alcoholics, And We Refuse to be Anonymous Many of us drink alone, but that doesn't mean we have to stop on our own. Rhonda, Claes, Elsa, Mark and Phil are currently taking the December Taster experiencing what it's like to be someone that doesn't drink alcohol for a month. If you want to be a part of the January Taster then it begins on January 1st: https://www.thetruthaboutalcohol.co.uk/p/TTAA%20Taster If you want more than a Taster, then why not try our Intensive experience? https://www.thetruthaboutalcohol.co.uk/p/TTAAIntensive

How to Quieten a Busy Mind Without Alcohol

A Striver asks “How can I quiet the busy mind without alcohol?” In today’s podcast, I reply, “Why would you want to?” The Truth About Alcohol We Are Not Alcoholic, And we Refuse to be Anonymous The Taster & Intensive In two days it will be Christmas Day. If you’re anything like me, you are running around trying to buy gifts at the last minute. On January 1st, millions of people will begin their year with a vow to not drink alcohol. We are here to help those people achieve this goal through our Taster and Intensive Experiences. I know what you’re thinking - what a great gift this would be for someone. Think again. There are wants and needs in this world. We need water, food and a roof over our head. We don’t need to stop drinking alcohol - you have to WANT it so badly that you will do anything to make it happen. So don’t buy them this experience, they won’t be ready. But what about you? The January Taster begins on Tuesday, 1st. If you want to join us and get to feel what it's like to have no alcohol in your system for a month, then here is the link: https://www.thetruthaboutalcohol.co.uk/p/TTAA%20Taster

Social Media: How Safe Are Your Social Media Feeds From Alcoholism?

Clair asks: “Can the numerous memes, photos and posts on social media glorifying alcohol affect us subconsciously even though we are determined not to drink.” The key here is the VOW. If you've taken the VOW to be someone that doesn't drink alcohol, then you seek out a mentor, a community, a philosophy - and you get to work. You uncover the TRUTH about alcohol, you raise AWARENESS of that truth, and then learn how to have FREEDOM from alcohol. If you do this the right way, then it doesn’t matter how many alcohol memes, photos and social media posts come your way because each intrusion creates a feeling of disgust and anger. If you don't take the VOW, don't find a community, don't absorb the philosophy of TRUTH, AWARENESS and FREEDOM- then you are less likely to do the work, and it's more likely that all of these memes, photos and social media posts will create such an internal friction that you will succumb and drink. The pain of doing so is nowhere near as damaging as the pain of not receiving those memes, photos and social media posts because if we get to that space, that means we are alone. I answer this topic in more depth on today’s episode of the Alcohol & Addiction Podcast, which you can access right here. The Truth About Alcohol We Are Not Alcoholics, And We Refuse to be Anonymous The Taster & Intensive In three days it will be Christmas Day. If you’re anything like me, you are running around trying to buy gifts at the last minute. On January 1st, millions of people will begin their year with a vow not to drink alcohol. We are here to help those people achieve this goal through our Taster and Intensive Experiences. I know what you’re thinking - what a great gift this would be for someone. Think again. There are wants and needs in this world. We need water, food and a roof over our head. We don’t need to stop drinking alcohol - you have to WANT it so badly that you will do anything to make it happen. So don’t buy them this experience, they won’t be ready. But what about you? The January Taster begins on Tuesday, 1st. If you want to join us and get to feel what it's like to have no alcohol in your system for a month, then here is the link: www.thetruthaboutalcohol.co.uk/p/TTAA%20Taster

Emotions And Flow: How a State of Flow Helps us Kill Our Desire For Alcohol

Liza is going to buy a scrapbook and fill it with keepsakes and memories of Zia, so she can look at it when she’s older. When Liza shared this with me, a big smile covering her beautiful face, I reacted angrily. Maybe irritably is a better word. Liza’s facial expressions changed. No smiles. Now we had a frown and a defensive posture. I went to bed and began reading Breaking The Habit of Being Yourself by Joe Dispenza and learned how as a boy the thought of lack created the emotion of anger. Then, like slow cancer, this feeling of rage turned into a mood, and later became my personality. Lee Davy = angry person. When Liza shared her scrapbook intention it wasn’t her idea that generated the anger - I am anger. I went downstairs and told her that her idea was beautiful and sweet, and apologised for being a prick. I kissed her, went back upstairs, and meditated on being a more serene, accepting and loving person full of gratitude and enoughness. At that moment, I entered the zone - the Neocortex quietened down the rest of my brain, and I shifted from a Beta brainwave to an Alpha brainwave, opening the gate to my subconscious, allowing my new reality to enter. And this morning I did the same. I will do the same tomorrow. And the next day. And. The. Next. If you want to learn more about emotions and how entering a flow state can help you change them (and ultimately, you), then you're in luck because that's what I talk about in today's podcast. The Truth About Alcohol We Are Not Alcoholics, And We Refuse to be Anonymous The Taster & Intensive In four days it will be Christmas Day. If you’re anything like me, you are running around trying to buy gifts at the last minute. On January 1st, millions of people will begin their year with a vow not to drink alcohol. We are here to help those people achieve this goal through our Taster and Intensive Experiences. I know what you’re thinking - what a great gift this would be for someone. Think again. There are wants and needs in this world. We need water, food and a roof over our head. We don’t need to stop drinking alcohol - you have to WANT it so badly that you will do anything to make it happen. So don’t buy them this experience, they won’t be ready. But what about you? The January Taster begins on Tuesday, 1st. If you want to join us and get to feel what it's like to have no alcohol in your system for a month, then here is the link: www.thetruthaboutalcohol.co.uk/p/TTAA%20Taster

Choose a Corner: Are You For Alcohol or Against It?

I walked into the house and a second had passed after the hug when my brother-in-law asked me if I wanted to watch Creed II. I didn’t fancy it. But. When you have a two-year-old child, the thought of sitting in a movie theatre for two hours seemed like tranquillity. It could have been Dr Doolittle or The Ten Commandments. I didn't care. “Yes.” I loved it; cried like a baby numerous times. The writers did a tremendous job of eking out the vulnerability of all four of the primary characters, and the common theme was fatherhood. - Adonis Creed and his relationship with Apollo Creed and his newborn daughter. - Ivan Drago and his relationship with his son Viktor. - Rocky Balboa and his relationship with his son, Robert. One minute, you're standing in Creed's corner, hoping that he can step out from beneath the considerable shadow of his father, and then you find yourself standing opposite rooting for Drago's son as you see the confusion, anger and lost love funnelled through every punch. It made the movie great, but ultimately, for the script to work, you had to pick a corner and stick with it. It reminded me of our fight with alcohol. We arrive at Strive and begin learning TTAA. We hate alcohol. We despise it. We want to stuff a towel at the foot of our bedroom door to stop the thought of it from seeping into our minds. And then we love it. It was at the centre of all things beautiful. It’s the glue that holds our social structure together. It quietens the mind. It loosens our inhibitions. It gives us a buzz. It’s normal. It’s pleasurable. And then comes the conflict - the cognitive dissonance. The only way to quieten it is to pick a corner and stick with it. What will it be? The Truth About Alcohol We Are Not Alcoholic, And we Refuse to be Anonymous The Taster & Intensive In four days it will be Christmas Day. If you’re anything like me, you are running around trying to buy gifts at the last minute. On January 1st, millions of people will begin their year with a vow to not drink alcohol. We are here to help those people achieve this goal through our Taster and Intensive Experiences. I know what you’re thinking - what a great gift this would be for someone. Think again. There are wants and needs in this world. We need water, food and a roof over our head. We don’t need to stop drinking alcohol - you have to WANT it so badly that you will do anything to make it happen. So don’t buy them this experience, they won’t be ready. But what about you? The January Taster begins on Tuesday, 1st. If you want to join us and get to feel what it's like to have no alcohol in your system for a month, then here is the link: https://www.thetruthaboutalcohol.co.uk/p/TTAA%20Taster

Using the Locus of Creativity to Become Someone That Doesn't Drink Alcohol

Panic. They will be home soon, and I haven't finished. The car horn tells me to stop and help with the groceries. But I'm not finished! I walk downstairs, the car horn ringing in my ears like the sound of the FBI breaking down my door. I kiss Liza, take the groceries, and dump them on the kitchen floor. I scoop up my laptop and try to pick up the pace. Liza comes in, drops Zia onto the floor, asleep in her baby chair. "Where did you go?" I ask politely. Before I know what has happened the composers, have penned a different tune, and I am starring in a new act. I can't remember what happened in the old one, but in this one, Liza is angry at me for not listening to her. I defend myself. “I heard everything you said,” I tell her. {There is a difference between hearing and listening} World War III ensued and had I been someone that drinks alcohol, who knows, maybe I would have fanned the flames by pouring rat poison on them. Here’s the thing: Our energy goes to where our attention is. The Neocortex reacts by turning down the volume in all other areas in the brain enabling you to focus on the task at hand. If you focus on your work, then that's where your energy goes. If you focus on how your wife’s day has been, then ditto. If you focus on the warmth of a glass of mulled wine while marching through the Christmas market? The Truth About Alcohol We Are Not Alcoholic, And we Refuse to be Anonymous The Taster & Intensive In four days it will be Christmas Day. If you’re anything like me, you are running around trying to buy gifts at the last minute. On January 1st, millions of people will begin their year with a vow to not drink alcohol. We are here to help those people achieve this goal through our Taster and Intensive Experiences. I know what you’re thinking - what a great gift this would be for someone. Think again. There are wants and needs in this world. We need water, food and a roof over our head. We don’t need to stop drinking alcohol - you have to WANT it so badly that you will do anything to make it happen. So don’t buy them this experience, they won’t be ready. But what about you? The January Taster begins on Tuesday, 1st. If you want to join us and get to feel what it's like to have no alcohol in your system for a month, then here is the link: https://www.thetruthaboutalcohol.co.uk/p/TTAA%20Taster