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Is Setting Boundaries Selfish? | Q&A on Selfishness & Boundaries | 1000 Days Sober Podcast

In this episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, we dive into your questions on selfishness and boundaries. Is setting boundaries in relationships selfish? How can you maintain healthy boundaries without feeling guilty? Tune in as I tackle these challenging questions and provide actionable advice for your personal growth journey.

 

Topics Covered

- The fine line between self-care and selfishness.
- How to set and maintain healthy boundaries in all areas of life.
- Real-life Q&A from our listeners on selfishness and boundary-setting.

Join the conversation and learn how to navigate these complex topics in your sobriety and self-development journey.

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Internal Family Systems For Children With Lisa Spiegel | LeeDavyCoaching

Internal Family Systems For Children With Lisa Spiegel | LeeDavyCoaching

 

Today's guest on the 1000 Days Sober Podcast is Lisa Spiegel.

 

Lisa Spiegel has been a psychotherapist for 40 years. She is the co-founder of Soho Parenting, the first parenting/psychotherapy center in New York City. Lisa has her BA from Vassar College and her Master’s in Developmental Psychology from Teachers College, Columbia University. 

 

Lisa is trained in EMDR, Life Force Yoga for therapists, and is a certified IFS therapist. She has provided parent guidance and psychotherapy to children, adolescents and adults in her practice as well as at many New York City preschools. She teaches IFS to therapists around the world. 

 

She is the author of two books, A Mothers’ Circle and Internal Family Systems Therapy with Children. She lives in New York City with her husband and has two adult daughters and four grandchildren.

 

I invited Lisa on the show after reading her book “Internal Family Systems With Children.” Parenting is so hard, and the Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a great framework for parents and children alike to make sense of the complexity of the human condition. Not only is it a great book on the topic of IFS and children, but it contains the best explanations of the IFS model I have found in any IFS books.

 

In this episode we cover:

 

What is IFS

What IFS teaches us

On parents being Parts activated

On body awareness

On self-awareness & presence

On the importance of repair

On self-compassion

On the inner critic

On childhood sexual abuse

On the complexity of the human condition

On the value of curiosity

The incredible challenges of parenting

 

Hope you enjoy!

 

Lee

 

If you want to learn more about Lisa Spiegel you can reach out to her at lisa@sohoparenting.com

 

You can buy her book on Amazon.

 

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If you’re interested in becoming AFAF (Alcohol-Free-As-F**k), I have a book that details my method: https://www.thestrivemethod.com/book

 

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On Rebuilding Parent-Child Connections

Today's guest on the 1000 Days Sober Podcast is Valerie Vazquez.

 

Valerie is an ordained energy healer and minister living on a beautiful farm in Hawaii. Passionate about holistic wellness and spiritual growth, Valerie combines her deep connection to nature with her healing practices. Alongside her daughter, she co-hosts the podcast "Spiralling Together: A Mother-Daughter Healing Journey," where they share their insights and experiences on the path to healing and self-discovery. 

 

I invited Valerie on the show after seeing her going deep with her 22-year-old daughter Chloe on their podcast. It’s unusual to find a mother-daughter partnership talking so openly about their relationship in public. Valerie was also alcohol reliant at one time, and I was interested in her viewpoint on parenting unconsciously versus consciously.

 

Hope you enjoy!

 

Check out my new FREE ebook - Nurturing Children: Guiding Your Child Through the Challenges of the Digital Age: https://www.thestrivemethod.com/Nurturing-Resilience

 

If you’re interested in becoming AFAF (Alcohol-Free-As-F**k), I have a book that details my method: https://www.thestrivemethod.com/book

 

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The 9 Tips for Conscious Parenting

In this episode of the 1000 Days Sober podcast, host Lee Davy returns after a hiatus to discuss the profound journey of conscious parenting and living a self-led life. Lee delves into the concept of the "inside-out" versus "outside-in" game, a theory introduced by Dr. Michael Beckwith, and how it applies to everyday interactions, particularly with children.

Lee shares personal anecdotes about his struggles and triumphs in building a stronger connection with his daughter, Zia. He emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, responsibility, and the role of internal parts in shaping our responses to external challenges. The episode also explores how living consciously can help parents not only quit alcohol but also lead more fulfilling lives.

Listeners will gain insights into practical strategies for improving relationships with their children and themselves, including the significance of presence, curiosity, rupture and repair, and maintaining integrity. Lee offers guidance on navigating the complexities of parenting while fostering a nurturing environment for both external and internal "children."

Join Lee as he outlines nine core principles that have helped him succeed in his parenting project and learn how these principles can be applied to live a more conscious, self-led life.

Navigated Sober Vacations: A Conversation With STRIVER Suzie

🌟 New Episode Alert! 🌟 "Navigating Sober Vacations: A Conversation With STRIVER Suzie" 🌴🍹

In today's heartwarming episode, we chat with Suzie, a STRIVER who's 266 days into her Alcohol-Free-As-Fuck (AFAF) journey and absolutely crushing it. 🌈 Suzie has been part of our STRIVE family for four years, and her transformation has been nothing short of inspiring! 😇

We delve into one of Suzie's major milestones — her first sober holiday! 🏝️ Whether you call it a holiday or a vacation, navigating it without alcohol can be a unique challenge. But guess what? Suzie's got insights and tips that you won't want to miss. 🎯

If you're on the fence about sobriety or just want to see how enriching life can be when lived on your terms, you NEED to hear Suzie's story. 🎧

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On Mummy Wine Culture: A Conversation With Celeste Yvonne

Our incredible guest today is Celeste Yvonne—a sober mom advocate, certified recovery coach, and accomplished writer. With her work featured in the Washington Post, Good Morning America, Today Show, and many more, Celeste brings an extensive 20-year career in communications into the sober mom sphere. She's also a founding host of the Sober Mom Squad and a resident of Reno, Nevada, where she lives with her husband and two children.

🌐 Connect with Celeste Yvonne:

- Official Site  
- Facebook
- Instagram

What You'll Learn:

- The Drinking Culture Around Mothers: Why the so-called "mommy wine culture" exists and what it means for mothers who want to embrace sobriety.
  
- The Mental Load of Motherhood: How the uneven distribution of Household Chores and responsibilities when children are born contributes to the drinking culture.
  
- Targeted Advertising: The insidious ways in which the alcohol industry specifically targets mothers and how we can combat this.
  
- Meme Culture: The disturbing and absurd memes that make light of drinking as a coping mechanism for mothers and why they are harmful.
  
Key Takeaways:

1. The drinking culture around mothers is more than just a series of individual choices—it's a systemic issue.
  
2. The mental load that mothers carry is often overlooked and underestimated, leading many to unhealthy coping mechanisms like drinking.
  
3. Awareness and education are key to dismantling the harmful narratives around motherhood and drinking.

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Credits:

🎧 Editing: Stan Vdovitski

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On Being AFAF: A Conversation With Doug Gelling

🎙 Meet Doug Gelling: A STRIVER who decided to rewrite the script of his life by quitting alcohol in 2016. Far from hitting "rock bottom," Doug realized that his life, marred by alcohol dependence, was on an unsustainable path that affected his health and relationships.

🌱 Well-Being & Philosophy: Since waving goodbye to alcohol, Doug has embarked on a transformative journey. Rooted in discipline, fitness, spirituality, and a deep commitment to serving others, he's a testament to what can happen when you align your life with your values.

📚 Mindfulness, Buddhism, and Stoicism: While he doesn’t identify himself as a Buddhist, Doug is a practicing Stoic with a daily mindfulness routine. His focus on these philosophies has served as the backbone for his remarkable turnaround.

💡 Guiding Principle: Inspired by Dr. BJ Miller, Doug's life mantra can be summed up as: "Life is precious because it ends." In his own words, "Nothing that has an unlimited supply is precious. As I’ve gotten older, I understand that each day is truly a precious gift. I will not waste another one of them."

Join us for an inspiring, insightful, and deeply personal conversation with Doug Gelling. Learn how he managed to break free from the clutches of alcohol, and how you too can transform your life by focusing on what truly matters.

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The AFAF Shift: Episode 3: Navigating Identity, Longing, and The Liquid Lie: Unpacking the Teenage Years

Welcome to Episode 3 of The AFAF Shift! This poignant episode dives deep into the turbulent waters of adolescence—a time fraught with identity crises, unrequited love, and the insidious onset of alcohol reliance. Through the lens of Erik Erikson's psychosocial stages, host Lee Davy revisits his teenage years to unravel the 'Liquid Lie' society often tells us, where alcohol becomes a damaging rite of passage. Tune in for a captivating blend of personal storytelling and psychological insight that reveals how these formative years set the stage for later relationship dynamics, addictive behaviours, and the perpetual quest for external validation. Lee also opens up about his transformational journey and offers actionable steps for developing a more conscious, SELF-led life. Don't miss this episode; it promises to be as impactful as it is revealing. See you on the other side of the 'AFAF Shift'!

 

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On Trust: A Conversation With Janey Lee Grace

Janey Lee Grace is an Amazon No 1 Best-selling author, speaker, and was co-presenter on the UK’s biggest radio show, BBC Radio 2’s  Steve Wright in the Afternoon for 24 years. Formerly she was a backing singer with Wham! Kim Wilde and Boy George, had her own number 8 chart hit as Cola Boy with 7 Ways to Love.

Janey has written five books on Holistic living including the number One Amazon best seller Imperfectly Natural Woman and her latest book is Happy Healthy Sober – Ditch the booze and take control of your life which encourages everyone to look again at their relationship with alcohol.

After ditching the booze Janey launched a podcast ‘Alcohol Free Life’ focusing on sober self-care, she gave a TEDx talk Sobriety Rocks- Who Knew!  and runs The Sober Club, a platform offering a non-judgemental community for people who are committed to sobriety and want to ‘upscale’ their life without the booze and focus on health and wellbeing.

Janey is passionate about encouraging people to ditch the chemicals, focus on great nutrition, selfcare, and finding their purpose as she found for herself that quitting the booze was the missing link in the ‘holistic living’ picture. She also offers coaching and is trained in EFT, Matrix Re-imprinting and NLP. 

Janey is married with 4 children and lives in Hertfordshire but longs to be by the sea.

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The AFAF Shift: Unearthing My Past to Build a SELF-led Future: Episode 2: The Boy on Shelley Road: A Tale of Two Selves

In the latest episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast 🎙️, join me, Lee Davy, as I delve into my childhood experiences between the ages of 5 and 10 🧒.

 

Using Erik Erikson's theory of psychosocial integration 🧠, I explore the concept of Industry vs. Inferiority and how it may have contributed to my reliance on alcohol 🍷 in later years.

 

This insightful and personal episode is the second in a continuing series to shed light on the complex relationship between our early life experiences and adult struggles 💡.

 

Don't miss this powerful and thought-provoking episode! 🎧 Please take a moment to rate ⭐, review 📝, and share the show 📢 with others who might benefit from this journey of self-discovery.

 

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