The Truth About Alcohol (Why Quitting Feels So Hard)

She Drank So No One Saw Her Crack: The Hidden Cost of Perfectionism

You think perfectionism is your edge. Your armour. Your proof that you’re holding it all together.

 

But what if that polished surface is just a terrified PART doing everything it can to keep the cracks from showing?

 

In this episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, I break down how perfectionism feeds alcohol reliance—not because you’re weak, but because you’re scared to be seen as you are.

 

You’ll hear my own story of growing up with conditional love, chasing achievement to feel worthy, and the pivotal moment I realised: perfectionism isn’t strength. It’s protection.

 

So if you’ve ever thought, “I can’t quit drinking until I’ve got it all figured out,”—this one’s for you.

 

Join us as we talk about the power of letting go, being messy, and embracing the real you underneath the mask.

 

Much love, and STRIVE on!

Lee

 

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Alcohol Is Everywhere—Why Wouldn’t 1 in 4 Kids Be Affected?

One in four children live with a parent who has alcohol or drug problems.

 

Sounds shocking? It shouldn’t.

 

Because that’s just the smoke. The real fire is the Liquid Lie—a culture that has normalised alcohol so deeply that even kids growing up in so-called “healthy” homes are affected.

 

You don’t need a parent with a diagnosis for alcohol to hurt your childhood.

You just need a mum who “deserves a glass,” a dad who drinks every weekend, or a birthday party where Prosecco is poured alongside the cake.

 

In this episode, I unpack how the Liquid Lie seeps into family life, how it shapes our nervous systems from childhood, and what it really means to live a SELF-led life, AFAF—for yourself, and for the next generation.

 

If you want to break the chain, this one’s for you.

 

 

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Afraid to Stop Drinking? Build a New System Instead

If you’re afraid to stop drinking because you don’t know who you’ll be without it—you’re not broken. You’re responding to a culture that taught you to cope with alcohol instead of connection. In this episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, Lee Davy explores a powerful quote from Buckminster Fuller via Seth Godin’s This is Strategy, inviting STRIVERS to stop trying to fix the old system—and build a new one instead.

 

You’ll learn why shouting “I’m sober!” isn’t the point… and how living a SELF-led life, AFAF, is the quiet revolution that renders the Liquid Lie irrelevant.

Because you don’t beat the old system by fighting it. You make it obsolete.

 

In this episode:

✅ How the Liquid Lie keeps us stuck in old paradigms of shame and silence

✅ Why becoming AFAF is more than abstaining—it’s about authorship

✅ How Internal Family Systems helps PARTS trust SELF

✅ Why silence feeds the old system—and visibility helps dismantle it

✅ What it really means to build a better system

 

Reflection prompts:

Where in your life are you still playing by the old system’s rules?

What would it look like to live so truthfully others wanted to follow?

How are you helping make the Liquid Lie obsolete?

 

Rate, Review & Rebuild

Ready to stop fighting alcohol and start replacing it with truth?

Join the waiting list for the STRIVE Method.

 

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What Does It Really Mean to Be Alcohol-Free-as-F*ck?

What does it really mean to be alcohol-free-as-fuck?

 

It means you stop apologising for your power.

It means you stop shrinking for the comfort of others.

It means you stop negotiating with a poison that was never serving you.

 

In this episode, I share how the STRIVE community evolved beyond the word “sober”…

…and why alcohol-free-as-fuck became our battle cry.

 

You’ll learn why this identity isn’t about perfection—it’s about pride.

And why it’s not for everyone—and that’s the point.

 

This isn’t just about abstaining.

It’s about rising.

 

So if you’ve ever struggled to explain why you don’t drink—

or felt like your truth made others uncomfortable—

this one’s for you.

 

Let’s roar it.

 

 

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Why You Can’t Quit Drinking Without Vulnerability

You’ll never live alcohol-free-as-fuck without vulnerability.

 

Not the performance kind that earns applause—

But the raw, real kind that risks rejection just to be seen.

 

In this episode, I crack open Week 2 of the STUCK Phase inside the STRIVE Method, where we explore why your PARTS are terrified of vulnerability—and how that fear keeps you stuck in the Liquid Lie.

 

We’ll unpack the truth about internal protectors, emotional safety, and how to build trust with your inner world… so you can stop hiding and start healing.

 

If you’ve ever wondered why you still can’t quit—even though you know all the logic—this is your missing piece.

 

Let’s get vulnerable.

 

Much love, and STRIVE on!

Lee

 

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Everything Is Bullshit—Unless You Prove It

You think you’re lazy.

Your partner thinks you’re selfish.

Your boss thinks you’re not good enough.

 

But is any of that actually true?

 

In this episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, I reveal the principle that changed my life and transformed my coaching:

Everything is bullshit unless you prove otherwise.

 

Most of us live in a prison built from assumptions—false stories planted by PARTS, past experiences, and a culture soaked in the Liquid Lie. But truth doesn’t come from repetition. It comes from observation, communication, and feedback.

 

This episode gives you the tools to challenge the stories in your head—and the courage to stop drinking over lies you haven’t even tested.

 

You’ll learn:

– How to separate facts from feelings

– Why direct communication can dismantle shame

– A powerful framework from Nonviolent Communication

– Why the Liquid Lie relies on unchecked beliefs

 

The stories you tell yourself are powerful. But are they true? Let’s find out.

 

Listen. Reflect. And if you’re ready to stop drinking over stories that don’t serve you—join the STRIVE Method.

 

Much love, and STRIVE on!

Lee

 

 

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What to Say When a Friend Pressures You to “Just Have One”

“Come on, just have one.”

It sounds harmless. But that line has derailed more alcohol-free lives than a bar tab at a wedding.

 

In this episode, we go beneath the surface of peer pressure to uncover the truth: when someone urges you to drink, they’re not just offering a glass—they’re offering a mirror.

 

Lee Davy breaks down the psychology behind why this moment rattles us, what it reveals about our need for approval, and how to respond from SELF—not from shame.

 

You’ll learn why people push where there’s space, not where there’s strength—and how to make sure your boundaries are anchored in something deeper than willpower.

 

If you’ve ever felt that pang of guilt when you say no, or if you’ve ever caved just to keep the peace, this one’s for you.

 

 

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Why Your Workplace Might Be the Reason You Drink

You don’t need a pub to be pressured into drinking—you just need a break room full of moaners.

 

In today’s episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, we unpack how toxic work cultures, gossip loops, and workplace echo chambers are keeping you stuck in victim mode—and pushing you to drink just to cope.

 

Lee shares personal stories from his days on the railway, breaks down the IFS lens on PARTS and systems, and offers two powerful paths forward: walk out or speak up.

 

Because echo chambers are the pub before the pub—and if you don’t change the room, you’ll keep reaching for the bottle.

 

 

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Drinking at Home: The Hidden Trap Stealing Your Presence

No bouncer. No last orders. No limits.

 

When you drink at home, there’s no one to tell you when to stop—and that’s exactly why it’s so dangerous. A new Drinkaware study shows most weekly drinkers in the UK now spend more money on alcohol at home than in pubs or restaurants. That might sound smart. Sensible. Safer. But it’s not.

 

Because when alcohol enters your home, it slowly takes over your routines, your parenting, your marriage—your presence. In today’s episode, I break down how this trap forms, why it’s so hard to spot, and what to do if you want to reclaim your space, your power, and your peace.

 

Whether you’re a parent, a partner, or just tired of checking out instead of showing up, this one’s for you.

 

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Why You’ll Never Heal Alone – Seth Godin Was Right

You can quit drinking in silence—but healing? That’s a team sport.

 

In this week’s Book Highlight episode, we break down one powerful sentence from Seth Godin’s This Is Strategy:

“When we work together, we get far more done.”

 

This episode isn’t about self-help slogans—it’s about the truth that almost nobody wants to admit: you won’t escape the Liquid Lie on your own.

I tried. I made it. But it was lonely. And unnecessary.

 

I’ll share how STRIVE evolved from a solo mission into a healing movement—why community isn’t just a perk, it’s the strategy. You’ll learn how shame isolates, why your PARTS fear connection, and how saying “Me too” changes everything.

 

If you’ve ever told yourself you don’t need anyone, this episode will lovingly call you on your bullshit.

 

Come find your people. Come heal out loud.

 

 

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