Trying to Fix Your Marriage While Drinking? Talk to Your Partner Like They’re Eight

Ever find yourself barking at your partner, then hating yourself for it?

 

I’ve been there—yelling in the kitchen, slamming doors, watching my marriage teeter on the edge… all while trying to convince myself I was “working on it.”

 

But I wasn’t working on it.

 

I was drinking through it.

 

And here’s the truth: you can’t fix your relationship with alcohol in the mix. You can’t talk to your partner like an adult when your PARTS are throwing a tantrum. And you can’t expect their compassion when you’ve lost access to yours.

 

In this episode, I share a hard-earned lesson that saved my marriage and reshaped every conflict I now face:

 

When adults argue, it’s usually two scared kids shouting through grown-up mouths.

And the way out? Learn to speak like your partner is eight years old.

 

Not with condescension—but with compassion. With presence. With SELF.

 

If you’re alcohol-free—or trying to be—but still blowing up over bullshit, this one’s for you.

 

 

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